My mother's ex-best friend has known me for over 20 years and I consider him a father figure. Before I was engaged, I knew that I would ask him to give me away. The problem is that my mother is no longer speaking to him (for something that I think is ridiculous, but it's not my life, so....). I wanted to seat all mothers and 'fathers' together at the reception, but I'm afraid that if I seat my mother and the father figure together, that my mom will be miserable the whole night. She's can be a drama queen, and though I've asked her to be civil for my sake, she says that she "won't make a scene but won't talk to him, either." So, do I seat her with my fiance's parents and grandmother (I have no grandparents) and move the father figure, or do I seat her elsewhere and risk her being hurt that she's not at the 'immediate family' table????????
Also, how do I deal with the photos? Sheesh, she's sure made this a task. :(
2006-09-30 18:26:58 · 12 answers · asked by J B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this is your wedding day , sit people where you want them and do your pics the way you want , your family loves you , they can put their differences aside for just 1 day.......congrats and good luck
2006-09-30 22:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by sindi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your mother doesn't understand that your wedding day is about you and not about her. I would still have the "father figure" give you away, but I would probably seat him with other close family members rather than place him at the same table as your mother. Explain to him that it's because it would make your mother uncomfortable and is no reflection of your feelings for him, you just don't want to have any possible drama occur at your reception. Definitely have him in the family photos -- your mother is just going to have to compromise and deal with it. Good luck -- I hope that your mother behaves herself and you have a beautiful wedding!
2006-09-30 18:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Vlad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is paying for the wedding than you really need to consider her feelings. What i would do is pull her aside and ask her what would be the best situation for her. Run all your ideas by her and see what she will be happy to compromise on. Let her know exactly what you would like as a best case scenario and then ask her hers and then see if you can find a mddle ground. Id she decides to be difficult remind her it's your wedding and how would she feel if her mother did this to her. Hope i helped you. I've got a very similar situation at my wedding coming up. It's such a pain but i will pull rank if i have to!
2006-09-30 18:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try not to stir the waters by seating her at a different table than immediate family. She is immediate. You could try and seat them both at the same table, just not right next to each other. Hopefully they will focus on the fact that it is your day and all will be fine. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-09-30 18:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't seat them together. However, you should remind you mother it's your night not hers and it is going to be very stressful if you have to worry about them making a scene. Ask her opinion on the photos, and if it's a good suggestion use it.
2006-09-30 18:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like she won't be happy anywhere u put her it is ur day put her where ever u want and tell her to at least act grown up for one day anyway gl hun hope u have a great wedding day and don't let anyone spoil it for u
2006-09-30 18:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by howcor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let her know how this is making you feel this is your day and sh needs to suck it up and do this for her daughter. i know what you are dealing with my mom is total drama queen too and her and my father do not get along at all. but I have a child now and they do have to see each other and be civil for their grandchild you really need to Lt her know how important this is to you and that she needs your cooperation for one day she doesn't have to deal with him after that. She should do that for you after all, Its YOUR day!
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2016-10-15 09:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far away as possible from each other with there backs to each other or there will be a war
2006-09-30 18:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seat them far apart
2006-09-30 19:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋