2006-09-30 18:26:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if it's normal
but you certainly are not alone!
Trust me... I'm 36 and right there with ya!
2006-09-30 18:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sillira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal among people who're one, either fed up with the dating game or two, don't understand why being involved is the natural state for a person.
In reality, love (meaning romantic love) is an illusion and only lasts through one's courtship period. It's essentially something we've picked up from our collective culture and doesn't serve one when one's really in the mode of self-discovery which a lot of people are into during their 40s and 50s. And if you don't believe me, talk to some older people who've been married two or three times and ask them if it's all that it's cracked up to be.
2006-10-01 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by TigBlocker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think so. I don't know what is going on in your life, but you might not have had a satisfying relationship. Relationships are alot of work and sometimes they are lop-sided. Sometimes I feel I don't want a relationship because I'm doing all the work. I feel at times that I rather be by myself and not worry about someone else. I think its normal.
I hope I've helped you. :)
2006-09-30 18:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal, but when you have had certain experiences in relationships you tend to believe that it's "normal" for me to feel this way given all that has happened or not happened.
I personally get that feeling sometimes, but then I know I can't allow one or two bad experiences to completely make me jaded. I just have to chalk it up to added experience that now makes me wiser.
Hopefully you will be able to shake that feeling and one day look back and be happy that you did.
At least that is what I'm hoping for in my life.
2006-09-30 18:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone gets tired of dating or being invloved with someone at some point in time. if this is what you decide to do then relax and enjoy youself, take up a hobby, take some time to actually figure out what you want in a partner, and then maybe start trying again later on in the future, but you definitely do not, i repeat do not want to be one of those people who smells like cats. like i said before just take your time quit looking and when you do that is when you find just the person you were looking for your whole life. unless you already smell like cats and they smell like dogs chances are ya'll wont get along very well
2006-09-30 18:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my guess is that you have loved and lost and just don't want to try again because at 37 you realize that this is how all relationships seem to turn out.
2006-09-30 18:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you man!! You gotta wonder if there is that special one out there tho. I feel the same as you man and it is terrible, at our age we should be happy living the dream, with the woman of our dreams, but it is sad how a few bad women can take away the good feelings. Good Luck!!
2006-09-30 18:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Wistall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must have a reason to be the way you are, on your late 30s but if you feel comfortable being single, be it, but i hope that you won't be the kind of old person who will look ridiculous doing something out of the normal at your age, eg; being with a very young one, being at the bars ..etc..etc.. lonely person are very weird, so go to a club and start looking around for friendships, that will be the way you will find out if you believe or not in a relationships, or maybe you will be surprise that you will be out of your closet...let me know what you find out..looking forward to heard from you....!!!
2006-09-30 18:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by shiningsun 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's about the age, it's about your relationship status. My parents were happily married at that age, so no it's not age. Somebody must have disappointed you seriously, or you had a series of disappointments. Sorry to hear.
2006-09-30 18:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever had a bad relationship before?
If so this could have influenced your decision.
Just because it happend one time with someone, don't mean its going to happen again.
Try to avoid the mistakes you made last time and try to work it out.
2006-09-30 18:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am 42 and not sure whether you are a guy or girl? But yeah I feel the same way sometimes. If you want to IM or email me just click on my picture.
2006-09-30 18:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋