I love a man, who is the father of my baby who is addicted to cocaine and alcohol. He has abandon me within the last month and been running around with a 34 year old married woman (after he broke it off with me) I care for him deeply but he is in denial. How can I help?
2006-09-30 18:08:23 · 9 answers · asked by JB 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
He had always before been a very kind and loving person who would go out of his way to do anything for me. Never before so wrapped up in these addictions. Do you think he is afraid of the responsibilty and the change of lifestyle?
2006-09-30 18:23:03 · update #1
Unfortunately, drugs make people do stupid things. You can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped, and if he doesn't think he needs it there isn't a thing you can do. I know a lot of people are telling you to get rid of the guy, and you are stupid for loving him, but having been there I know it is so hard. The best thing I advise is to get yourself together, and that way if he ever cleans himself up and wants to come back you can make a decision based upon whether or not you really want him.
2006-09-30 18:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. He is only interested in himself and his high. Do not have anything to do with him now that you have a child. He will ruin three lives. His own life is his to ruin. Don't let him drag you and your child down with him. If he cared, he would have quit wasting his money on drugs as soon as he found out you were pregnant, let alone when the baby was born, and used his money to support his new family.
Get counseling if you have to keep away from him.
2006-09-30 18:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Susan M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what do you see in him? I would get him arrested for the crack addiction. Because he wouldnt be able to smoke it or drink plus he'll be away from the 34 year old woman. So when he comes out he probably would of broken it off with her plus he wont be addicted to the crack or alcohol!
2006-09-30 18:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend.......you need to get rid of this guy and find someone who REALLY cares about you and the baby................WAKE UP...............if he really loved you and the baby he wouldn't be messing around with a married woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Plus, if he is in denial, there is no one that can help him but himself.......when he finally realizes that he DOES have a BIG problem.............but good luck anyway...........
2006-09-30 18:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by VICTORIA L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you bothering with him? That's one thing I don't think even women understand about women: why stay with a complete loser. Let him go, you deserve better.
2006-09-30 18:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help yourself and your kid and find someone else. really, you deserve better than having to put up with crap like that that can really drain the life out of you.
2006-09-30 18:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's in denial?????
What about you???
Tell me again....what about this jerk is it that you find so attractive????
2006-09-30 18:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by sent_from_heaven2me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant...he has to help himself
2006-09-30 18:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by hwall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot.
2006-09-30 18:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lloyd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋