ok ... theres a guy i went out with & he ended up breaking up with me, and he's the best guy i ever went out with ... & i still have strong feelings for him. sometimes it seems like he feels the same way, but truthfully, i would rather get over him already then ever go back out with him ... but then i feel like he's the only one i ever want to go out with. i tried talking to all my friends about it, but they all have been NO help! they all say the same thing, that it "takes time" & "i'm not gonna find mr. right in 10th grade and another guy will definately pop up" but its been a year now! ADVICE ON THIS PLEAZ!
2006-09-30 18:06:14 · 16 answers · asked by sammi joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
** and yes people, 10th graders CAN have strong feelings for someone already ... i'm almost 16, not 12!**
2006-09-30 18:15:26 · update #1
**more info: i went out with this guy for almost half a year ... and we seemed PERFECT! but whenever i feel like i'm over him, i see him the next day at school, and i cant handle the way it makes me feel anymore! it hurts to always go down memory lane, and it makes me feel like i will enevr get over him ... and i have absolutely no feelins for no one else. it drives me insane! **
2006-09-30 18:19:09 · update #2
10th grade, you havent met the Mr. Right believe me...In time he will show up and it will be when you least expect it and when your not looking...
2006-09-30 18:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can feel real love at 16, but I also know that you will change in many ways over the next 20 years, and what you like now may not be what you will like in 20 years time.
It sounds like, in any case, that you don't really want to go back out with him despite your strong feelings. Why is that? Did he do something bad to you? Did you realise when you were together that actually you weren't good for each other?
You need to work out why you don't really want to go back out with him, and that will help you get through this patch. And eventually it will pass, it just takes a long long time if you really love him.
If, on the other hand you actually do want to give it another go, then just go for it, tell him, do what you can to get him back. Don't live with the regret of not having done all you can to make it work.
Good luck, I know it's hard but you'll be alright in the end as long as you just follow your heart.
2006-10-01 00:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Quilps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz don't ever let a boy make u go crazy like this. The reason how i know is becuz i went completely fool last week when this happened to me. i still do have feeling for him.(strong feelings). But now i have to accept the fact that hes gone. Yes maybe some day later yall will be together again but.... all im trying to say is that lie is to short for u to stop ur world. U need to move on and find someone else before its to late. When he sees that u r kinda happy then hes going to want u back. Trust me. My technique is workin for me already.
2006-09-30 18:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. This must be a really awful time for you. All you have to do is stay strong, keep your options open. Start looking for other guys. Once you've found someone else the healing process will seem a hundred times faster. It may seem like this now, but he's not the only one for you.
2006-09-30 20:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't had any closure, you still see him often i am guessing around school so it is hard to forget him and move on if he is constantly in front of you.
when me and my ex broke up we were still lviing together and so getting over him was very hard, and truth be told two years later i am still not sure if i am totally, though we don't live together anymore and he has someone new, but due to us having a kid i see him once a week.
it does take time, but it is easier if you don't see him so often, or when you do see him he's miserable!
they say finding someone new can take your mind of it, but if you aren't ready don't get with someone for sake of it, it ends up being someone you wouldn't usually go for and will prob end in disaster.
sorry i am prob not much help either, but keep smiling and take it a day at a time, go out with your mates and have a laugh, try to keep busy doing things that don't hold memories for you.
good luck hun, you'll get there in time :)
2006-09-30 21:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confused. do you have anyone that you know that you like "more than a friend" or is it just him?
more than a friend : you after the new guy. you know the other guy broke up with you for a reason and he might not come back just think if he saw you with this other guy then he'll be the one in upset.
no one but him : yeah you still like him so maybe he likes you but you dont know and your coNfUsEd right so think of ways you might get him back in the meen time find something that might cheer you up like going to the mall and lookin for a new guy to start hagin out with maybe youll find hes not the only one for you. plus it can be really fun being single just think about it.....
2006-09-30 18:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kisses From Paris, I love you! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at the start of a long and emotional life journey - don't exhaust yourself on this guy, believe me there will be many more to come. The problem about becoming absorbed in one guy at such a young age is that you lose perspective. Get out and about more. Socialise in amixed group of friends, try not to get in too deep too fast.
2006-09-30 20:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have fun! You are much too young to be even THINKING of weddings and engagements and life-time partners. Go out with your friends, join some clubs, your mister Right will come along when it's time. Enjoy your freedom while you can!!
2006-09-30 18:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh silly girl you should understand this first he dumped you not you it is his mistake why are you bothring your self life is very big
and I must admit this that first love is something that change you as a person and he is not the guy you love most he is just you attraction and you think it as your love plesae stay calm and cool no body forget about such things but life goes on go out and and found your spacial one may be he is very near to you but you never consider him as your boyfriend first thing you should know
person who loves you will be yours not the one whom you love try to realize the truth he left you and it is your golden chance to prove that you don't need him anyway
2006-09-30 18:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by NEO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but your friends are right!
i know it's hard when you are at this age, it doesnt get easier as your get older but this isn't love.
distance yourself from him, occupy your time.!
don't revolve your life/thoughts around him. in the end you will see it was a waste of time.
guysare not serious at that age.
2006-09-30 18:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by J_Riiiiight R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋