Why is it so hard for a good christian black man to find a good indian, chinese etc. Woman for a relationship?

Question

I am as you can see by NO means racist I will go with any race. But its as if my race ( though im a combination 0f 2) has a bad rap, whether the news, movies etc. Is anyone willing to talk? or give me a chance?

Answer 1

I am also by no means racist, but I am an American living in China, and perhaps I can offer some insight on your problem. (I wouldn't know about India, though). In Chinese culture, white skin is considered the paramount of beauty. It's because they're all yellow over here, and the majority of the population is still manual laborers in the counrty who, because of their yellow skin, tan more easily in the sun. Peasants are looked down upon in China because they are poor and uneducated, and their dark skin has become a signifier of that low status. An attractive mate for a Chinese girl, therefore, would be a fair-skinned city dweller. This is not neccessarily because he HAS money, but he LOOKS like he does. (Whiter skin= office job= money=security, whereas Darker skin= farmer= poor, uneducated= struggles for every meal). It may seem like racism on the surface, but when you break apart what light/ dark skin actually MEANS to Chinese people, you find it's very class-discriminatory, and has nothing to do with race. If you're set on finding a Chinese girlfriend, the places to look would be in southwestern China, where it's tropical and hot, and everybody's got a tan and won't flinch when they see you. I've met a couple girls from Yunnan who like black men. In fact, a friend of mine (a DJ from California) found a gorgeous Chinese girl who practically worships him! By the way, I agree with the sentiments of the other people who answered your question- keep looking! The right girl is out there! Don't get discouraged- pray that God will send your true love to you, but also be aware of the cultural background of the people you enter into relationships with, and don't be too racially-sensitive. The way they judge you may not be racist at all! Hope this helps you in your quest!
Jen

Answer 2

Don't give up, to find the right person it takes time and a great deal of patience. We all have preferences of who we date. We are the same under the skin. Keep looking for that christian mate, I know it is hard because I am searching for my christian mate too. You feel like giving up sometimes but, keep praying by faith and trusting in God to bring that christian mate in his timing. Remember that God' timing is not our timing : 1 day is 1,000 yrs. Who knows when you stop searching for that mate as much, then that mate will come.
God Luck!

Answer 3

One day you will find the right lady, leave it in god hands,

Answer 4

LISTEN UP. TRUST IN THE LORD. HE WILL BRING YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART. IN HIS TIME NOT YOURs. WITH G0d all things are possible, to those whom believe.

Answer 5

Try mail order...

Answer 6

understand what u mean .. u should go out more often ..