Does the soldier worry more about getting injured, or their spouce not being faithful.
I am asking because of my own dilema in possibly leaving my home for an extended period of time to visit Afghanistan. I find myself much more worried about how my wife would handle herself than if I'd get hurt.. Is that normal?
It could be as painful and life changing i would think. Especially for a family with kids (though I dont have children).
2006-09-30 18:03:40 · 15 answers · asked by Wilson Wilson 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
that is so sad.. why do these people act that way, what more selfinsh act is there in this entire world??
2006-09-30 18:09:00 · update #1
I think they worry about being cheated on alot. Personally, it makes me sick. I hate how many of my fellow military wives do whatever they want and perpetuate the "cheating wife" stereotype. I, personally, have never even considerded it. I am even careful not to put myself in any kind of situation where ANYONE could percieve me to be doing anything less than being and honoroable, loving and faithful wife. This means I don't go to bars, clubs or parties. I don't go anywhere after 7pm. And if I do anything such as drinking or socializing, I am either with my parents, his parents, or the other Family Readiness Group leaders, including my husband's SGM's wife. He's over there fighting for freedom, the least I could do is sit at home and wait.
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2016-12-04 02:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man after these replies you prob are even more worried.
I wouldnt of even posted this question on here. From my experience. I have been gone 1.5 years out of my 5 years in and I am about to head to Afghan soon. I have been married to my wife my whole career and have never had a problem with cheating. There are some out there but it all depends on your relationship with your wife. I am also an AF brat and my parents have never had a problem.
Honestly when I go overseas I dont worry about what my wife might or might do nor do I think about getting hurt. I just concentrate on what I am going over there to do. Before you know it your tour will be over with and you will be heading back to start your normal life back up.
2006-09-30 18:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by JB 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well first let me say I am not a military spouse at the moment however I am a friend to a few and at one point married now divorced to a military man.
So I feel its important that I answer this question and I hope you won't disqualify my answer because I have not come here out of disrespect.
What you need to know is this, if there is no trust, there will always be fear, where there is always fear, there will be tyranny.
You are asking your wife to trust that you know what you're doing by going to a war that possibly will render her a widow. You have made this lifestyle choice for all of your family members and so I say to you, she deserves your trust also.
War is about social freedom in as much as it is about all other freedoms too, so when you find yourself doubting, remind yourself that one of the things you fight for is your wife's social freedom in as much as anyone else's freedoms.
Don't pigeon hole and you will do just fine
2006-09-30 18:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by lightwayvez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your main concern right now should be going to Afghanistan, doing your duties over there, and then coming home safe and in one piece. If your are that worried about your wife cheating, sit her down and talk to her about your worries. I'd bet she can put your worries to ease so you can concentrate on what you're going over there for.
I have been an Army Reserve wife for almost 3 years now, but dated my soldier for 2 years before getting married to him. He was deployed to Iraq for OIF when we had only been dating for 6 months. I waited on him and we got married a few months after he came home. He is currently serving in Iraq in support of OIF once again and I will, once again, wait for his return in a year.
So, speaking from experience, TALK to your wife about your troubles. Think of clever ways the two of you can pass the time while your gone, like putting a dollar (or whatever sum of money) in a jar for each day that you are gone. Then when you come home, go on a vacation with the money you saved, or use it for something for the both of you.
2006-09-30 19:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is overseas right now, and I would never cheat on him, but things aren't the same with everyone. Hopefully your marriage is strong enough where you have to keep your mind on what you're doing out there, and not what your wife is doing on this end. If there is love and trust there shouldn't be a problem. Let me tell you if a woman is going to cheat she will cheat whether you're here or there. Its not a good way to go off to war. Hope this helped. Take care out there, and God Bless....
2006-09-30 20:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by tofiesty4u2handle 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to worry about everything when your are told you will be leaving the safety of your home for a year or longer. Who wouldn't be scared of the unknown.
I was worried about my hubby's safety of course,and he worried about me getting lonely . I reassured him I would never cheat,and I have kept my word. Just worry about keeping her busy with meeting you online to chat,making you scrapbooks,and anything to keep her mind on YOU,while you do the same to her. Mail her letters,send flowers,call home when you can. My hubby emails all the time,and if I dont respond quickly he calls me. He knows what I am doing all the time,and I have not gone out since he left almost a year ago, anywhere I would not want him going if I were gone. Let your wife know you trust her,but give her restrictions if she will listen.Good Luck!
2006-09-30 18:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for a soldier to worry about every possible thing that might happen. All you can is do your job and have faith that your wife will be faithful. I am an Army Wife and I my husband has been in Iraq for a year, its been hard on both of us. We have a one year old daughter. All I can say is have faith that everything will work out for the best..
2006-09-30 18:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was in the Military, we had an old saying, when ever we deployed it was usally to the west, they called them West Pac Widows. Not to say that all were that way. If you have a strong marriage whether you get hurt or not, you can stand the test of time. My longest deployment was 11 months long from the start of Desert Shield/Desert Storm. That just sux'd altogether... But have faith in her & urself...
2006-09-30 18:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by back2skewl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a vet...just to clear that up. First off if you don't trust her you shouldn't have married her. But since you did...I think when you go overseas. Keep your head down, stay alive and come back and enjoy the rest of your life.
2006-09-30 18:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by Gettin_by 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋