long story short?

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Long Story Short:

Met this guy on myspace back in July 2005. We had sex right away. Started dating.
Then things moved fast we drove around to see each other, but mostly it was me, he came to my house to meet my parents, he said then he wanted to see other people so I agreed, but he said he’d tell me if he did, but instead he slept with his ugly ex and I found it out from her, told him i hated him for lying to me and I hated my self for trusting him.

Then we get back together, this is oct. 2005, now im jealous and I wasn’t before and I check his emails because im paranoid. We fight a lot and I find out he smokes more pot than I anticipated and he has no respect for me as a woman. More and more he disrespects me, but cries and tells me he loves me when I try to leave him. He asks me to meet his father around nov so I go.

Then I move to his city around jan. (I had already planned this b4 I met him) we keep dating but breaking up and fighting and the relationship gets more and more volatile because I am jealous and he doesn’t treat me like a princess, esp. with all I tried to do for him. I barely had friends so he tried to include me. We keep fighting on and off and I hook up with 2 guys between may and august. He had an ex gf visit in july and stay at his place. We were broken up during this time. But we both found out about these things and I was pissed. Needless to say he was angry about my hookups and broke a chair and cried until he threw up, drank himself to death for a day almost.

We still got back together and he was in his new apt now so we spent almost everyday together I slept over all the time and we practically lived together. We bickered about stupid things so we gave each other more space. But now his sexist roommate moves in and he sees how his gf kisses his *** despite how he treats her, and he wants me to be like that with him, but I have respect for myself. So he says his roommate convinced him to dump me so he does.

I am angry of course so I move on, but we end up sleeping with each other again even broken up, so I think im ok with this but end up realizing later that I still have feelings. This last break up was 2 wks ago but now its him who dumped me and now its for good. but now he says he’s moved on and its just sex and he hates talking to me about my feelings etc.

Why did he do this? Im still in love with the guy. If I ever told him I loved it I meant it. I love you means my feelings don’t go away over night, so how did his? How could he just give up and not want to work it out? So many times we broke up and got back together and he swore he didn’t have feelings anymore but he kept trying to be with me and me with him but he said we were too diff and that I wanted to much from him. I don’t know what he means. I just wanted him to be faithful. Why is that so hard?

sorry the story is much longer and more complicated. i just want to know if this guy ever really loved me or what? who puts up that much of a fight for someone they don't care about? just weird..........

Answer 1

its hard b/c its one of those "the way we were"....when its bad its the worst but when its good its almost like a fantasy, right? you miss all the good stuff....its good not to....one of my ex's had my heart & soul...i did anything....& i mean anything...for him....i completely degraded myself & i let him do it to me....& its been two years since i saw him last & i still miss him so much....having sex will make it worse for you b/c you will still feel a connection where it seems there is none....if you want to still be friends fine but friends w/ benefits is a bad idea....

Answer 2

wow, thats a tough one to answer.
In my experience of this thing called life, it is better if you are not with him because he is who he is and prolly wont change, as far as the respect thing goes.
As far as your feelings for him go, i guess it is all on you how you feel, but ive been "in love" with a number of females and it turned out in the end we werent good together but feelings were still there.
I heard once that women get with men that they feel they can change for the better/or better put "mold" them,men get with women that they like the way there and hope the woman never changes. Sad to say both parties intentions will never work because people change when they want to.

All this is from my experiences on this planet,in my life so i realy dont have a pro source, but I hope it helps a lil bit.

Answer 3

If that is the short story I can't even imagine.

My advice to you is that you should try dating someone new.
Remember I said date.
Nothing else.
Get to know a guy first before anything like that happens.
In the end you'll feel better about it.

Don't rush into anything.
The longer you wait the more you'll know about them and it'll be easier if you ever had to leave.

Good Luck and please try to get over him.
He sounds lick a dipshit.

Answer 4

You need to find someone that will love you the way you always though love would be. Your relationship is never going to get any better with him, only worse; he's immature, and easily swayed by his friends. I know it isn't easy saying goodbye to someone you care deeply for, but sometimes we just have to face the fact that it's what we have to do.

Answer 5

A man cannot treat you like that unless you let him. He knows he can behave badly and you will take him back. He knows you will still have sex with him. And he knows he can manipulate you with giving and taking love.

If you deserve better... move on.
If not, just keep on being a loser magnet.

Answer 6

your relationship is and has been just about sex. You two just connect in bed try to say or make it more never to accomplish.
Now you want what you cant have

Answer 7

get a life of your own there many fish in the sea dump him

Answer 8

Good Grief,,,
Why don't you send this story into one of the soap opera shows,, you might get hired,,,,,,

good luck

Answer 9

get over it

Answer 10

dats not no short story