2006-09-30 18:00:24 · 29 answers · asked by n8ve1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh No u don't need a divorce ..divorce is a bloody curse.....what you need is a holiday ....Are you sure ur hubby is not bored with you? Possibility is he could have the same feeling...but he knows the answer is not divorce.
you r not alone in having feelings like this everyone gets them at certain time after so long of marriage..but honestly its just a phase...it goes away ...
u need a break....that's what u need.
u try to stay away from him for few days ..see how boring and empty ur life will become...
everyone has good and bad points / habits ..even u , yourself and in case u marry again he might turn out to be even worse....what will u do then...divorce him too..and then next..n next..no it doesn't work like that.
now u stick with him for the rest of your life and have fun, u will need someone in ur old age someone who knows u and someone u can depend on...
smile ..now go n make ur hubby a nice cup of coffee..and plan for at-least a weekend out just u two..have a second honeymoon...cheers...
2006-09-30 18:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by mature_male_online 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends do you quit everything after it becomes boring or a little routine. it is easy to fall into a rut, and continue to do the same o same o. maybe a quiet weekend for two to a romatic spot, you could go to a couples group session and talk about what is bothering both of you. i get so tired of hearing people talk about how bored they are with their spouses but yet they do nothing themselves to try to keep the others interest also. so let me ask you this have you put forth the effort yourself to try to make the marriage more fun, in all aspects of the word i might add. until you both try and try and try some more and nothing seems to be getting any better, then i can understand getting a divorce, but if you still love this man why not give another shot to fire up his interest in you and for him to do the same as well. best thing i can say about this is talk to each other and tell each other how you really feel.
2006-09-30 18:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Darlin, Its not his fault your bored. So tell me...in the 25 years you have been married.....what have you done to make the relationship stay interesting.
You started out with common interests didnt you? If not...well then you didnt choose so wisely did you? If you did meet while enjoying a mutual activity...then what happened that your not doing that now?
Divorce doesnt solve any problems. You will find yourself lonely and longing for any kind of attention, even from someone you find boring and disinterested. Its a lot safer then trying to go out into the dating world and find someone who can hold your attention for more then a week.
2006-09-30 18:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by sent_from_heaven2me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOO, I don't think divorce is the answer.
Even if you are bored. The right thing to do is sit down and talk to your spouse. Tell them the way you feel,then go from there.
Being married for 25 years is a long time, Perhaps after you to talk things out, and they realize how bored you are in your marriage. They may want to start taking you places or just spruce up your marriage by doing different things TOGETHER !
2006-09-30 18:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is boredom a reason to get divorced? I don't think so. Start an affair with him. Start going back out on dates, sneaking home or to work for a little afternoon quickie, do things together like when y'all was younger. In other words try to fall back in love with him. And after you have done everything you can think of to get the flame going again and it doesn't work ..... Then you can divorce him. But it won't be because you're bored with him.
2006-09-30 18:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work together in a relationship. Both of you should come up with some nice things to do for each other to keep it interesting. You should go into a realtionship thinking "What can I do/ give to this person?" And not with the attitude "What can I get out of it?"
If both of you have this attitude, it could be a great marriage. That's what Love is all about.
2006-09-30 18:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! it's time to start doing stuff together again. what did you do that made you first attracted to him? recreate that for a special date night surprise for him! even add new toys to the bedroom, join a bowling league together, take some initiative that you'd extend if you were back in the dating scene again (cause you know you'd shave those legs and spend all sorts of extra time & effort on anything to make the new guy happy) don't discount the faithfulness & endurance you two have achieved together. just take some initiative to try somethign new. best of luck!!!!
2006-09-30 18:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not time for a divorce! You just have to keep working on your relationship with your husband. Try on doing spontaneous things or things y'all've never done before!
2006-09-30 18:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
25 years wow..... my mom and dad were marryed 20 years and he loved her but she died... now imagine this happening to you your beloved one dieing how would you feel now if you divorce him you lost him in that way you can talk but you won't be together and it would be hard if you really love him dont even think about it, it might get boring but will it be worth losing him?
kate
2006-09-30 18:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kisses From Paris, I love you! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋