I am pregnant and due in 5 weeks. Within the last month my boyfriend has totally abandon me for cocaine and alcohol and a 34 year old married woman. I have a hard time getting through the days. Please help.
2006-09-30 17:45:29 · 29 answers · asked by JB 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Come Holy Spirit and fill my sister here and comfort her and her child. All three of us here are praying for you and will continue to do so in the coming day.
Do you have somewhere to fellowship with believers in the morning? I am sure that if they are bible believing Christians they will have mercy and love for you.
My friend here saw the image of a yellow flower when we prayed for you does that mean anything to you?
2006-09-30 17:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you praying...cuz with God all things are possible? Its a blessing that you are free of this man. I would be thanking God that he left you. If he is willing to abandon a pregnant young woman and is into drugs and alcohol then more than likely he was not good for you to begin with. Seek support from family members, friends and "a church" family. Think about yourself and your baby. Don't let his actions steal your joy over the birth of your baby. Seek God's face through the reading of His Word and through prayer and He will guide and direct your paths and make all things new. I'll be praying that you do this...it will save your life. Love in Christ, ~J~ <>< P.S. so many women now are so deeply mired in low self-esteem and have no self worth or empowerment that they cling to any useless, loser...eventually get knocked up and then sit in wonder when the jerk walks away instead of becoming the knight in shining armour to rescue them. Now a child is involved and my fear is that you will turn and do it again. This guy wasn't Mr. Wonderful and then suddenly woke up one day and decided to become a schmuck. Oh no. You should have never trusted him to begin with. You are worth more and only God can show you just how valuable you are. In turn its your place to see to it that your baby becomes your top priority. Please email me if you need anyone to talk to. Love in Christ, ~J~ <><
2006-10-01 00:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
find a place away from the abuser.His lfe is now dedicated to drugs and whomever will support him and enable him to continue. You need to be strong for your child.The father is not capable at this time of being your support.Perhaps in the future, but for now you must stay focused on getting thru your pregnancu and taking careof a new child without influence of the damaging lifestyle of adrug user.Remember also child protection agencies will look poorly on your fitness as a mom if you are closely associated /live with a drug user. Unitl he has completed a treatment program and has had success staying sober and clean, refuse to live with him or associate w him.You can cry and be sorry for him but dont allow him back into your life until he has made the change needed to be safe around you and your child.It is no longer jsut you, it is now a helpless child relying on youto be strong in this difficul situation Try AL-ANON group meetings also They asre very supportive of this type of siutationa dn will give you more tools to succeed.
2006-10-01 00:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You got it.
I believe we should pray like everything depends on God and act like everything depends on us. What I mean by that is right now is when you need not only prayers of people who do not know you personally but you much more need the personal support of a Christian family. If you are not currently walking closely with Christ please offer a personal prayer that He might strengthen you and lead you to a congregation of His faithful ones.
God can help you through prayer and He can also help you through the hands of His followers. So please don't try to do this alone. That's what satan wants. He knows your weaknesses and knows how to attack you. By surrounding yourself with saints and prayer warriors satan can be overcome.
Also, realize that the little one you are about to bring into this world needs and deserves a Christian environment and family just as much as you do. The decision you make in regard to this can change your life and the lives of your child and grandchildren for generations to come.
2006-10-01 00:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by yagman 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Certainly I will pray for you. What a beautiful blessing you have to look forward to, however. A child!! He or she will adore you and think you are perfect. You can choose to be the best you can be so when he/she finally realizes you aren't perfect (and they eventually do), you won't have to fall too far in his/her eyes. Know for sure that he (the boyfriend) does not deserve the love and respect of either you or your child and stay away from him unless/until he comes to his senses and cleans up his act and stays that way for a substantial amount of time. Be blessed.
2006-10-01 01:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend, there are several issues that could be addressed here but it is not my intention to cast stones.
Often when one turns to drugs and alcohol, it shows they are hurting for whatever reasons and that addiction will not be resolved until we get to the root cause of the addiction. Often it is from childhood abuse and the resulting feelings of worthlessness.
I would not be surprised if he had not been doing a lot of things to get you to leave before he left.
More to the point, I would like to invite you to a group that does address these things and although it is geared for abused men, we do not turn anyone away and we have many women who have come for and received help. Check the links below.
I would like to comment on june81' s answer "tell him to come back or else you will report to police and charge him with rape case!!! "
It is my understanding that he did NOT rape her but your answer is solid proof that women DO lie about rape. I wonder how many men have you accused of rape when it was not? One THRID of the men in prison for rape have been proven innocent by DNA...and they were sent there by women just like YOU!
2006-10-02 07:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey I'm going to pray for you and give you some incite. File for child support immediately after you have the baby. Sign Up for welfare and find some family member or relative to stay with or at least help you with your baby. And pray to God that your baby is healthy and don't ever date a junkie. Good Luck and I'll pray for you.
2006-10-01 04:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just prayed one Our Father and three Hail Marys for you, Catholic-style. Plus I said one extemporaneous pray to Our Lord for you, Protestant-style. And I said the Jewish blessing over bread, which is the only Jewish prayer I know.
If I knew any Muslim, Buddhist, or Wiccan prayers, I would have said those for you, too, just to cover as many bases as possible.
May Our Heavenly Father bless you and your baby.
2006-10-01 01:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Michigan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. It might be a blessing in desguise god works in weird ways. Mabe it's better he leave now before he has too big of a negative impact on you life and the childs life. I hope that you can find someone who will love you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. Keep your head up and stay focused on you and your baby. You have my prayers.
2006-10-01 00:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ON MY JOB... I'LL JUST TELL YOU THERE ARE M*A*N*Y - M*A*N*Y - M*A*N*Y DRUG ADDICTED WOMEN WHOM INTENTIONALLY GET THEMSELVES PREGNANT AND THEN TRY FORCE ABORT THE FETUS BY USING MORE AND MORE DRUGS! I SEE THIS TREND USED BY WOMEN QUITE OFTEN IN THE PEDIATRIC & NEONATAL CRITICAL CARE MEDICAL ASPECT.
AND AS IT IS ALREADY A "CHOICE" FOR WOMEN TO MURDER A BABY/FETUS, AND THE VERY FACT THAT WOMEN RECEIVE ALL SYMPATHY DUE TO BEING PREGNANT, AND/OR SIMPLY BEING A WOMAN... NOTHING IS EVER DONE ABOUT THIS!!!!!
NO OUTCRY.....NOTHING.... AND THAT IS JUST PLAIN SICKENING!!!
AND THERE ARE BABIES WHO DO S*U*R*V*I*V*E THIS ABUSE FROM THE MOTHER. HALF THE TIME STATE AUTHORITIES STILL GIVE THE BABY BACK TO THE ABUSIVE, DRUG-ADDICTED MOTHER TO R*A*I*S*E!!!
IF THIS DOES NOT GET Y*O*U*R ATTENTION, NOTHING WILL. THIS IS A SILENT EPIDEMIC.
YES, I AM PRO-ACTIVE AND HAVE WRITTEN TO STATE OFFICIALS..... HOWEVER, NEVER HAVE I RECEIVED WORD BACK FROM THEM.... THAT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE HOOKED LINED AND SUNK ON THE ULTRA-FEMINIST IDEOLOGY.
There are a lot of males out there who've been mistreated throughout childhood, and perhaps even adolescence. The male child to early adulthood USUALLY resorts to SELF MEDICATING. Per child advocacy, male children are 10 times more likely than female children to be ABUSED physically & emotionally. Another form of ABUSE to male children, sexual assault. Which happens to young boys so much more than we realize. However, in MOST CASES, any part of MALE VICTIMIZATION is COMPLETELY IGNORED. within the age group of 4 yrs to 14 years of age. This sort of abuse to the MALE CHILD occurs in a single parent household - whom is primarly BIOLOGICAL MOTHERS.
How often have you heard an adult to tell a young boy,
"TOUGH IT OUT AND BE A MAN!"....
"BE A MAN AND QUIT WHINNING!"...
"SHUT UP, AND TAKE IT LIKE A MAN!"...
"A YOUNG BOY NEEDS TO BE TOUGH IN ORDER TO BECOME A MAN!"....
"YOU'RE LUCKY IF SHE WANTED TO SCREW YOU!"
"THAT WOMAN WAS ALL OVER YOU!!... YOU'RE ONE LUCKY KID... YOU'RE A MAN NOW. HA HA HA HA!"
"THE KID JUST GOT LUCKY THE OTHER NIGHT... HE'S A MAN NOW!"
"JUST DRINK A BEER KID, IT'LL BE ALRIGHT! BE A MAN AND JUST FIND YOURSELF ANOTHER GIRL!"
"OH HELL, HAVE A BEER.... BE A MAN"
"YOU'RE NOT A MAN........ YOU'RE A ***** WHIMP!"
"ALL MEN LOVES FOOTBALL... SO IF YOU DON'T LIKE FOOTBALL...YOU AIN'T A MAN!"
"ALL MEN WANT......... IS SEX!"
"MEN DRINK BEER... SO DRINK UP LIL GUY!"
"THATS MY BOY! DID YA SCREW HER? OH COME ON... DID YOU?..... YOU WHAT? DUDE, YOU NEED TO GET LAID. YOU'RE JUST PU**Y WHIPPED.... A WHIMP... SHOW HER WHO'S THE FU**ING MAN! NO EXCUSE!"
THESE ARE JUST SOME OF THE FEW THINGS I'VE HEARD A MOTHER SAY TO HER OWN SON! YES, I HEAR IT FROM FATHERS TOO. HOWEVER, THE MOST MALE ABUSE DERIVES FROM SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS - THE MOTHER, AND LACKING A FATHER.
DO BOYS GO THROUGH A LOT? OH YES. IS THIS OVERLOOKED... BY FAR IT MOST CERTAINLY IS. AND IT IS ACCEPTABLE TO TREAT BOYS THIS WAY IN OUR SOCIETY. ITS OK IF A GIRL SLAPS A BOY ACROSS THE FACE, AS IT IS A WOMAN SLAPPING, PUNCHING, KICKING, AND BEATING A MAN.......... IN PUBLIC....... BECAUSE "HE MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING TO MAKE HER MAD...." YES, SOUNDS REDICULOUS, DOESN'T IT... IT IS PRECEIVED AS COMICAL.... NOT ABUSE. WE SEE THIS ABUSE IN OUR MOVIES, TV PROGRAMS, COMMERCIALS/ADVERTISING. AND IF THE MALE INDIVIDUAL CAN'T TAKE A HIT? WELL THEN HE IS JUST A WHIMP.
IT IS ABUSE...... WHEN ARE WE GOING TO WAKE UP AND REALIZE WE NEED VALUE ALL PEOPLE?
I WILL CERTAINLY PRAY FOR THE YOUNG WOMAN WHO IS PREGNANT. BECAUSE GOD CAN TURN SIN INTO SOMETHING VERY BEAUTIFUL, AND FOR HIS GLORY.
2006-10-02 17:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Timmmay! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋