i'm not a bad lookin person. but i have problems with guys judging me cuz i'm not a skinny woman.. i have tried diets and tried to change wthe way i look but i felt wrong and bad about it.. cuz i was true to myself.. so how do i get a guy to like me for me not try to change me.. i hate the way guys judge woman aobut their apperance.. its like the want a super model or soemthign that they see on tv .. not a real woman.. help plzzz
2006-09-30 17:20:34 · 13 answers · asked by Shelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only way to do that is to meet a blind man...
2006-09-30 17:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! it's never going to change. The first impression is always and I mean always the looks. Why don't you show guys who you really are. Show them how cool you are and what a great personality you have. I have to admit us guys can be cruel at times, but trust me not all of us are like that. I know if I say that I like a girl who has a great personality it would be a lie. I sometimes do get attracted to girls who have looks, but I'm not always like that you know. I use to tend to go out with girls who have great looks, but I changed since then because most of the ones I dated where conceded and stuck up. They never cared for another only how they looked. It was always about them. I have to admit some of them where kind of stupid and air heads not to be mean. What I'm trying to say is that us guys will eventually find out what the true beauty is. You'll find a man soon. Trust me. Good luck.
2006-10-01 00:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by what_it_do? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys don't think this way. You have been associated with the wrong people, so continue to accept your body just as it is unless it is interfering with your health. Somewhere that special someone is looking for you so just wait patiently and never try to change yourself to please anyone other than yourself. Looking for others to validate you is a sign of a poor self-concept. Please don't do this to yourself. Hold your head up high and expect good things to come your way as you recognize that your decision is to be the best person you can be and what is on the inside far surpasses what is on the outside.
2006-10-01 00:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never stop men from doing this. But, there are some men that your appearance will not matter. Are you giving them a chance or are the ones you are going for the type that looks at the physical rather than 'what is inside'?
2006-10-01 00:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by krystaluc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do you want to change a little? that is totally up to you, be your self, love yourself be good to yourself, guys are stupid sometimes they think that a skinny chick, or a beauty makes all the difference but guess what? no it is not.those are the girls that treat them like dirt. Be yourself, when the time is right you will find the guy that's want you, likes you, and most of all loves you.
2006-10-01 00:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by whisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that it's human nature to have a first impression of a person by the way they look, you can't STOP this, but yet you can show people the better side of you by getting to know them.
I know, myself, that I couldn't just walk up to someone and ask them out and expect to get a yes, so I get to know people to show them who I am, and to find out who they are, and if I really like them or not.
2006-10-01 00:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hugh G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have 2 change the way you look just 2 please a guy... If a guy really likes you he should like you just the way you are he wouldn't have 2 try and make you change the way you look. Everyone is different that's how God made us. So watever you do don't ever change 4 a guy Ever!!!
2006-10-01 00:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by LaColombiana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you !!! Stay true to yourself !! That says that you have a lot of respect and pride in yourself.. with that attitude .. believe me .. as you get older . guys will notice that more than looks.. they are just too young to appreciate your beauty right now. Hang in there. You are a winner !!! :)
2006-10-01 00:23:50 · answer #8 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody's perfect...we all have our flaws...we all have something we do not like about our self...but i don't think a person should ever have to change who they are...to please someone else...now if i were you i would just look into my inner self, i would remain myself and stay true to myself....hold your head up high with confidence know who you are...ppl will notice your inner strength and they will look past your appearance and look at you for who you are...you might have low self esteem and ppl could read that...just by your body language they see that your not comfortable within your own skin...so it makes it easy for them to say something about your weight...cause if you notice can't you see it' a pattern...confidence and feeling good about yourself is the key...and ppl will look past your imperfections...they have plus size models that feel good about themselves or else they wouldnt be in that business but they have so much confidence and it makes them look beautiful inside and out...remember nobody's perfect not even me
2006-10-01 00:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant!!
They will FOREVER be judging women on how they look, especially the superficial men.
Why would you want a man who doesn't see your true beauty anyway?
2006-10-01 00:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by chula1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK listen up. THERE are men out there that love women your size. THERE are men out there that love your personality too. SO dont sweat it ok?WAIT ON THE LORD. HE HAS THE BEST 4 you. HE will bring him in his time not yours. HAVENT you heard G0d has some 4 every one? Well he dose. TRUST ME.
2006-10-01 00:27:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋