My boyfriend told me that he was sorry. I told him that i forgive him but now i feel very uncomfortable with our relationship what would you do if you was me?
2006-09-30 17:19:07 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH YOUR SELF, YOU ARE STILL UPSET WITH HIS CHEATING ON YOU. AND UNTIL YOU
DEAL WITH THAT YOU WILL ALWAY FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT YOU KNOW YOUR HEART, AND ONLY YOU CAN MAKE THE DECISION TO LEAVE OR STAY.
BUT RESPECT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE
REALTIONSHIP IF YOU DONT HAVE THAT YOU DONT HAVE
VERY MUCH GOING FOR YOU.
2006-09-30 17:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you[my thoughts]:
"I like my boyfriend a lot. Everyone trips up once. Twice makes me uncomfortable. Trust is important. Yet I can't help but wonder that if everytime I say 'no', he goes out and finds someone who will give him what he wants. I don't know how I feel. He says he loves me but I haven't cheated on him at all no matter how the times were rough or how many arguements we've had so clearly I put him higher on my list than he puts me. If he really is sorry the times should be stronger but if they are the way the were-I'm going to have to step out.I need someone bend in acommitment."
2006-09-30 17:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Psychia22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive him and not stay with him, you know. He's already proven that cheating on you wasn't a mistake - because he did it twice. Also, you have now taught him TWICE that he can do this and you will take him back. I'd say the behavior is pretty much learned now and he's probably not going to change any time soon (if ever). Good luck.
2006-09-30 17:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same situation. i have been with my boyfriend for two years also and he cheated on me and regretted it so much. everyone on here is going to tell you to leave him. obviously it's not that easy or else you would have done it already. in my case, i stayed with him and we're actually pretty happy now. all i can say is follow your heart. if he really feels bad, he will do whatever he can to earn your trust back. that is what my boyfriend is doing. he tries to prove to me all the time that he is not doing anything. if he loves you enough, that's what he'll do and he will understand that this is hard for you. if he refuses to do that, then you should probably move on. i hope this helps. good luck!
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2006-09-30 17:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Damon ♥ Elena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always heard the term once a cheater always a cheater. HOw far did he cross the line in cheating? If you feel your trust is lost then you probaly should end this relationship. You need a man that you can trust and that you could see yourself having a future with him. A man that will not hurt you by cheating on you. Good luck!
2006-09-30 17:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of that saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
You forgave him the first time -- which was very admirable -- and a LOT more than most women would do! And how does he treat you then? He cheats again!
I'd get as far away as fast as possible! This guy figures he can "get away" with this disrespectful, UNloving behavior. You do NOT have to put up with any of that. There are decent, honest guys out there who would never do this.
Good hunting!
2006-09-30 17:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can really answer this for you. This is something you should think about real hard. You need to think about: 1) Will he do this again ( or has he done this before). 2) Do love him? 3)Can you forgive him and forget about the transgression?
Always remember that you deserve to be treated right and that there is someone out there who will, if you just have patience. Never any need to settle.
2006-09-30 17:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Out on a limb returns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you once, said he was sorry and it wouldn't happen again, then did it again and probably said the same thing. My stepdad recently cheated on my mom and my mom forgave him, as long as he didn't do it again.
If you feel what he has done will forever effect your relationship in a bad way, and you are always nervous he will do it again, say good bye.
There are better guys out there.
2006-09-30 17:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 07:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, if i were you, i would leave him. because if he says he loves you and crap and then goes and cheats you dont need that. just feel confident and go out there and get someone else, when someone cheats it shows they dont know what treasure they've found already. and if you do follow my advice, go all the way through, dont be like 2 days later, ya ill go out with you again. no you dont need that you can be a strong woman. Show him what your made of.
- Lexie
2006-09-30 17:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋