I have only one child an 11 yr old and always says I never spend enough time with we spent 4hrs watching a movie and had dinner together and still said this later
2006-09-30 16:53:29 · 18 answers · asked by luvwyoming2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your child to stop trying to play with your emotions. It's immature.
2006-09-30 16:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
an 11 year old needs more than just setting watching a movie together. you don't say if child is son or daughter. That would make a difference in the things you chose to do. Try to think of something to do that requires more dialog between the 2 of you. Think about how you yourself probably talk to people and enjoy doing so. Well your 11 yo is starting to want to talk people so figure out what he or she likes to talk or do that is more interactive than just watching a movie together
2006-10-01 00:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tommiecat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some active listening. I'd respond to that with "sounds like you really feel lonely sometimes." Then listen with empathy. Perhaps the child is lonely at certain times of day. I know once my kids started letting themselves into the house after school at around age 11 (too old for after-school programs) they would feel kind of lonely and scared in an empty house. Although you might not be able to change something like that, just listening and understanding can help. They do seem to outgrow it. Try other activities, too; TV/movie watching can be kind of noninteractive.
2006-10-01 00:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching a movie is not interactive time. I hope you at least talked at dinner all of what 16 minutes?
2006-09-30 23:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by baughwawn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing makes goes wrong is watching movie.
It wont mean that you are with your child during that 4 hours movie time.
Do any other activities like going out. playing with your child etc like that.
My best wishes
2006-10-01 01:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Aswin Suriya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your child, and evaluate how much time you do spend with your child. you did the movie and dinner, but what other time have you spent with your child?
2006-10-01 00:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is coming from a 10 y/o kid i think you should have a family fun day every like other week or something. that way you spend more time together and its "an adventure"
2006-09-30 23:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by coocoocachoosiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe theres something else going on, maybe they want to talk and dont know how. Are you a single mother who just started dating or gota new boyfriend? That could be it. If not maybe they just want all your attention, its a good thing hold on to it while you still can.They grow up too quick.
2006-09-30 23:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels like it doesn't count unless he picks the activity. Ask him what he wants to do with you that counts as spending time together.
2006-09-30 23:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by nightcrawler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting is a hard thing to do for anyone but take time out to find out what he/she likes doing and try and get involved in that. Something might be bothering him/her sotry and find out that too. Kids are like that for a reason. Chin up it will be ok
2006-09-30 23:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by Danny P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the 11 states you dont spend enough time with them, ask them "what do consider enough time and what do you want to do with the time we spend together"
2006-09-30 23:56:19 · answer #11 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋