im so unhappy?

Question

My boyfriend of 6 months is sick of my mom. she b*tches at me about everything, and emotionally jurts me and my father.
he does not want to deal with it. (my bf) and i really really love him, and he loves me.. I have no clue what to do, he wouldnt talk to me at a dance tonight, and now im thinking he doesnt care (though he said he did.) please tell me your thoughts, but don't be mean.

Answer 1

Although your boyfriend probably really likes you, he doesn't want to be caught in the middle of an unpleasant family situation. Being involved with you means being involved with your parents and there is no getting around this. You, your mother and your dad need some serious family counseling because things will not improve without professional help. In the meantime, don't expect your boyfriend to hang around and endure all this negativity. Unfortunately I don't think anyone would. My heart goes out to you and I certainly hope your world gets better very soon.

Answer 2

How much contact does he have with your Mom?
Maybe he's tired of hearing about all the things your Mom does or doesn't do and needs a bit of a breather. Is there anyone else you can talk to about your mother's behavior (a girlfriend, teacher, guidance counsellor, minister)? That way, you can get it off your chest but also give your boyfriend some quality time where the two of you can focus on your relationship.
And, at the dance, he could've just been having a bad night (it happens to everyone). You say you think he doesn't care but he said he DOES. Would he lie to you?

Answer 3

I think that you've already answered you're own question...he said he's sick of your mom, and he doesn't want to deal with it. There's only about 3 billion other women on the planet, so he's figuring life is too short.

That may hurt, but it's not mean....it's reality. As for solutions, I don't know what to tell you. Your parents definately need to know who you're dating, but maybe they shouldn't hang out at the homestead as much as this guy apparantly did. If your mom is the problem, reduce the exposure.

Answer 4

mean never. Acknowledge his feeling.and tell him you understand why and are OK with it. I can only guest that he felt the need to distance himself cuz he doesn't want to say what he is truly feeling. he doesn't have a clue how to help. Your father needs to step up, Take charge and let her know NO MORE your daughter doesnt deserve the way you treat her.And with question when her bf is visiting and you start in or know that you cant stop , then remove yourself. Your dad needs to be your hero. He will if you op3n up and talk to him.

Answer 5

Sorry for the sutuation your in. I'm assuming your under 18 and can't move out of your house? It's tough, short of running away, there's not much you can do until your of age. Sounds like your mother is really controlling. Can you go live with another relative or friend? You might just have to tolerate her for now.

Answer 6

talk to your mom and tell her to quit b*tching so much. Maybe your dad can have a talk with her too. Maybe she needs counseling or something? Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you dont want to lose him because of your b*tchy mom. Tell him that he doesnt have to come around the house if she bothers him. You can go other places together. I think he still cares...... give him a little time maybe. good luck

Answer 7

Have a heart to heart talk with your mom. Ask her if she remembers what it was like to be young and have a bf. I hope you can reach her. If not try to keep her away from your bf.

Answer 8

It's apparent to me what the problem is. try a 360 and look at the solutions available......you know the answer, just want someone to make the decision for you.......good luck with that, it doesnt work. Listen to your gut.

Answer 9

Perhaps he's mad that you allow the behavior at home to continue....Perhaps you whine and complain about it a lot...but do you do anything to change it?....Maybe he has made suggestions on how to help you but you continually dismiss his help...Maybe he figures he's too young to live in a soap opera? Maybe he doesn't want to deal with it because it is your problem and he doesn't want to overstep any boundaries...Guys don't want a complicated relationship...your mom and her attitude (or perceived attitude) are complications

Answer 10

if u r old enough and u really love him, ask if u can move in. If not try talking 2 ur mom. If thhhaaat dosnt work, talk about it h2h w/ him. Good luck.