Im 30 and he is 18, I used to talk about a couple of my girlfriends (not really bad)lol abut their younger boyfriend and just wondered what could they possibly do for them? I see now, and its not just sex, but after being in an abusive relationship for 10 yrs and being emotionally and physically neglected, it feels to let go, He is mature and doesnt look or act the age, I love him dearly and vice versa, but some frown on it. He proposed to me and I said yes. What do you think?
2006-09-30 16:08:18 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I meant to say it feels good to let go.
2006-09-30 16:09:37 · update #1
if you love him go for it! who cares what other people think ?anyway, they don't know what is really going on and are obviously ignorant. have a good time and enjoy the sex, i hear that younger men are fabulous!!
2006-09-30 16:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by suebdoo518 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My fiance was 22 and I was 32 when we started dating we have been engaged for a year and half, at first our families were concerned about it, I have known him for many many years. When we finally came out and told them we were dating they were shocked and it didnt take them long to get over the situation and realize that we compliment each other very much and are meant for each other. Occassionally we run into people who have something to say about it, but not often. I luckily look young for my age, and even though I have a five year old we havent had any issues with my ex or any other family members about it lately, it took a good 6 months to get them all in sync...
Its a bit tougher in your situation as he is only 18, my guy already had a degree and is finishing his 2nd and has had a career job for a few years already, and was ready to settle down, he cant wait to get married in august and start a family right away (I will be 36 a few months after the wedding so he knew if we were having children together that we had to do it soon.) Your guy is probably just out of high school, and still is very young no matter what.
There is a website that I go to that is for our type of relationship you should visit it, there are alot of age gap relationships from 5yrs to 33 yrs difference in age, with older women and younger men relationships;
www.agelesslove.com
2006-09-30 23:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it looks bad, and eventually youll see his age shine thru. He hasnt experienced things like you have. I dont think youll like it when it comes to important decisions and he has no clue what to do. Youre gonna end up feeling like his mother. Youre gonna age and hes gonna hit his prime. Youre gonna feel weird when theres younger women around.
This is just my opinion. Id be leary of all of it. I think youre gonna regret getting involved. Hes at an age where he should be out there living life, enjoying himself with ppl his own age.
Prepare yourself, cuz ppl are gonna stare, and the reason theyll stare, is cuz its gonna look funny. People are gonna talk, whisper and point. I know that I couldnt do it. Id feel like I was doing something bad if I was with an 18 yr old and I was 30.
It doesnt look good, but its your life, but you did ask what we thought. I still think youre gonna run into problems. You may be looking at some neglect again in the next few yrs.
2006-09-30 23:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I understand totally how you feel. When you have been abused of course you are going to want to be with someone who is completely different to what you have been with.
However, he is 18 and guys through age change continously and drastically, I think until they get to about 40. You are going to have to be able to handle lots of change in your relationship because really he hasn't finished growing. And hon, if you have been in a horrible relationship you are going to have to grow away from that too.
I say, enjoy the fact that you love him and he loves you... stay engaged for a long long time until you know you can grow together. Good luck.
2006-09-30 23:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No relationship comes with a money back guarantee. Sometimes relationships with a large age gap work and sometimes they dont. There is a lot to think about as will he get bored once you are 40 with wrinkles and he is only 28? Is he going to want children and do you? As is he ready to have them before you are too old?
But it comes down to the two people involved as to whether it will work. Only you both know how much you mean to each other.
2006-09-30 23:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by auburn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My bf is 28, I am 39. But we got together when he was 26. He is divorced and has a 6 year old child. He has a maturity level comparable to mine. I wouldn't have gone near him at 18 and me 29 or 30.
2006-09-30 23:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a factor when the person is over 18, however personally I could not have a relationship with some one that age, not because of the age difference but the maturity difference.. its not what we think that matters.. you are the only one who knows what is best for you, Good Luck
2006-09-30 23:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's legal what is the big deal, however I don't know if at 18 he's ready to propose marriage yet. And you have to wonder about your state of mind after being in an abusive relationship what your motives for being with him are. But if your both serious who cares!
2006-09-30 23:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by rimples25 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go for it girlfriend, there is nothing wrong of having a man with a 10 yr gap.there is no law of God that you can't be married to a 10 yr younger than you as long as it's genuine and true then God must be happy and wishing you a wonderful life together.dont feel guilty coz of ur friends said that younger man only wants sex and etc...you can jundge 'em ok..be confident of your relationship you chose to love him anyway.God speed!
2006-09-30 23:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by bisaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its great that yall are in love and you were able to say yes. i was in a similar relationship but as a woman i was the younger one and there was a 10 year difference and it didnt work out with us and if it works for you two then go for it who is there to stop you Yall are in love!!!
2006-09-30 23:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's he's infatuated and you're old enough to know it. Tell him to ask again in a year. It won't happen.
BIG gap in maturity levels between 18 and 30. You know that already. Stop feeling flattered and see it for what it is, you're feeling safe for a change and he's got his first booty call.
2006-09-30 23:19:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋