...he or she wanted to marry strictly for morality reasons (yes, they love you and treat you well)? And you didn't really plan to marry, but they reassure you that the things you fear about marriage will not be an issue (they will do a prenup, they want things to stay the way they are now, they wont tell anyone that you're married)
Would you do it? (presume when answering the question that you didn't plan to ever marry, but you do love your significant other)
2006-09-30 16:04:50 · 6 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So they feel that the relationship is immoral out of marriage?
I think i would try to strike a compromise, a common law marriage or an engagment that won't ever be brought to fruition.
If he felt very strongly about marriage than i would consider it but he would need to think about that i'm very against it.
2006-09-30 16:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, marriage is a public statement that you have both freely entered into a legal contract, each of your own free will. I would say in that situation that I wouldn't consider myself free to marry - and that anyone I do consider ever marrying with should also respect and honor that.
If you don't want to marry, it's not true that you are freely choosing. It's certainly not ethical. I guess "immorality" varies according to the judge you choose, but it's still a choice. And saying out loud (not only whispering to yourself) that you don't want to marry is not, ever, a personal insult.
It's exactly the same as saying that you don't want to be forced to donate a kidney or give blood. The issue is not what you don't want to give up, or what others stand to gain.
The point is that you don't care to do it, and no law can make you do so.
Also, if you both want to keep it a secret, that's not a marriage, that's an affair.
If your other is so significant, so what?
If you need the fact of your secret marriage kept a secret, you automatically give someone else the power to disrupt your life.
You care so little about yourself that you want to hook up with a blackmailer? Have an affair, but leave them out of your real life.
Really. Life is complicated enough without adding to it.
2006-09-30 16:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
morality reasons??? as in the girl is pregnant so that's y he is gonna marry her??? If that's what you meant then I do believe if a guy gets a woman pregnant that he should marry her. Considering the whole not telling anyone I wouldn't like that. When I get married it's gonna be a traditional ceremony with my family and friends there so everyone will know. :)
2006-09-30 16:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a girlfriend and never had much of a relationship. Several said they just wanted to be friends. It appeared that they were looking for some guy with lots of money or someone that was the same religion. I guess I will remain forever single and alone.......
2006-09-30 16:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by rasckal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry anyone until I was ready didn't no matter what they promised, because your saying u'll be with them forever and u have to both be ready not just 1
2006-09-30 16:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not at all. Even if they say that marriage won't change them, it would change me.
2006-09-30 16:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋