A few days ago for cross country we were supposed to be running 3 miles, but the group I was with decided to walk instead, (we normally don't). Well, we ended up walking the whole thing except for when we saw someone from our team and when we were at the very end, so that it would look like we were running. So my coach was saying good job and everything. I normally don't do the opposite of what I'm told, so I really started feeling guilty. Later he asked me how I liked running, and I avoided the question. So I kind of lied. Now if my coach found out what we did, I'm pretty sure he would yell at us. I'm worried that he might find out on his own, too. He's a really great guy, and I fell really bad. So should I confess to him what we did, or run the quivalent of 3 miles or more on my own to make up for what I did?
2006-09-30 15:58:42 · 13 answers · asked by Faith is better than doubt :-) 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow! You guys are thinking of possiblities and theories that I totally never thought of. Yah, he probably does know if he was timing us. Took us 45 minutes to do 3 miles. I think telling him is good, but I don't know if I can. I agree with the teacher, he probably does know. Some of us were even talking about how guilty we felt without thinking to notice if anyone heard us. And yes, he'd probably just have me run again. And to the person who said, "is it nagging at you so much you will even ask a bunch of anonymous strangers for advice?", you've got a point. I think I am going to run to make up for what I didn't. Thanks for your insight!
2006-09-30 16:37:15 · update #1
To be matter of fact, you only cheated yourself and are under no obligation to confide your actions. If you are serioulsy guilty and feel shameful,, then well.. do something about it. Why bother the coach,, decide for yoruself that you want to take the steps necessary to make a personal commitment to your goals about running and track. Put yourself in the coaches shoes.. let's think for a minute, this person has a passion for the sport and growth of others (whether teenager, or adult) and wants to help others reach their goals. You've wasted their time and yours, if you aren't serious. Honestly it's of no consequence, because in life, those that want to take something serious, will and those that don't aren't afforded the opportunities.
Feel shameful all you want, but reality is,, you control your own reactions and decisions about whatever occurs. Guess I have a Dr. Phil approach to things. Learn from this and decide if what you want to gain from your experiences and what you are putting forth in it.. don't waste others time if you aren't serious, and also.. dont short change yourself if you have talents that need to be utilized somewhere else. It's wonderful trying something but everything we do, we can't have some superb placement in it, but we can take what we can from it and grow..
Be sweet, and I think you're pretty sincere in your inquiry. You'll decide what is best,, no matter what is said.
2006-09-30 16:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Manatee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off if the coach was around at the start and at the finish he already knows. It takes a lot more time to walk than run. As a teacher I know kids think they get away with stuff but the majority of the time we know, I'm sure its the same for coaches to. If you feel guilty tell him. He will probably just have you rerun the 3 miles and keep a closer eye on you to make sure you are doing what you are supposed to succeed in track.
2006-09-30 23:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by AMANDA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As teach says, he probably already knows. I did the same but I was a lousy runner to start with and had a 11 minute mile, running. The next time I walked the mile and did it in 10 minutes. (I walk anywhere when it's feasible and had no problem with a 10 minute mile walking as a teenager). The gym teacher congratulated me on my improved time and I told him straight up that the second time was walking. He said he thought that was the way it was.
If you are into cross country then do a make up run and tell your coach if it makes you feel better about yourself.
2006-09-30 23:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by St N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having established that your coach can count so he knows what you did already .... what the issue really is about is what it feels like to decieve someone. Feel good? Mind calm? Happy heart? Or is it nagging at you so much you even will ask a bunch of anonymous strangers for advice?
The most important thing is this: REMEMBER HOW IT FEELS.
Deception preys upon the mind, because you know the difference between honesty & telling a lie.
REMEMBER this decision in your young life & you can save yourself untold errors & trouble of a more costly nature in the future.
Mistakes can be the best way to learn if we REMEMBER them!
Good Conscience!
;-)
2006-09-30 23:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heya, is it a class in school or one that your parents pay for? If your parents pay for it then maybe you should tell the coach, but I think the fact that you thought about it does enough justice... besides you should be worried more about your academic classes... unless you're super dooper zoom zoom fast, running wont get you anywhere in this world nowadays.
2006-09-30 23:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by bummy cheeks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both, Tell the coach and do the miles. You will feel better.
2006-09-30 23:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the truth...you never know he may appreciate you coming clean with him, and won't get as mad as you think, and if he does, take the heat, be strong and take it as a lesson learned! Telling the truth will make you feel better anyways... Good luck, and take care!
2006-09-30 23:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confess. You might now want to rat your friends out, that is kind of their decision, but for your own good and peace of mind, you should tell him. He probably will not be that mad if you tell him.
2006-09-30 23:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this guilty, tell him. It is better to feel good about yourself than to protect your friends or worry about being yelled at.
2006-09-30 23:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by mminuyasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This coach of yours have a stopwatch? If so, he already knows
2006-09-30 23:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋