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This is considered to be one of the most difficult phases in child rearing. The child is fighting for his own identity and learning about power and control. It is crucial to maintain your authority, but do not lose your temper. You must be very persistent and patient. He/she will try to figure out how far you can be pushed, and develop a sense of boundaries in what is correct or incorrect behavior. This doesn't mean you should overindulge their demands for attention either. They need to learn the correct boundaries for that also. Good luck.

2006-09-30 15:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by martin h 6 · 0 0

ok I am going through the same thing until two days ago I used the 1 2 3 thing I yelled I yes sometimes spanked and I think I had probably said no more than a million tmes, I tried the time out thing ans seriously I was lsoing my mind but I calmed down and have begun the positive incouragement thing and it seems to be working to some degree it eases the whinying tempertarums however this does not work with enforcing rules but I tell u I am a lot calmer myself and my house is much nicer to live in at the moment. Your child is seeking attention he doesnt really care if it good or bad attention attention is attention a) praise good behaviour even if you feel stupid doing a happy dance in the middle of the mall do it!!!! Ignore bad behaviour if your child is safe but kicking and screaming on the floor ignore him dont look at him dont talk to him just ignore him I am telling u it works

2006-09-30 17:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0 0

It is called "the terrible twos" and is a phase all toddlers go through for the most part. Don't acknowledge the tantrums, if you say no, mean no and don't give in. invest in a child gate and when the child starts the tantrums put the child in the bedroom with the gate up, then go on about your business, check on the child every now and then but don't give in. After awhile they learn that being a brat isn't appropriate behavior.

2006-09-30 22:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

At this age they are testing their boundaries to see how much they can get away with and they're also testing their independance.
You have to decide what you will allow and stick to it. If they throw a tantrum, tell them the rules, that throwing a tantrum won't get them what they want and don't let them change your mind.
It might be hard at first, but once they realize that you set the rules and you will stick with them no matter what, they will accept them and the tantrums will lessen.
Remember, you're the parent and kids are great with emotional blackmail. When they say they hate you, they don't really mean it. It's just their way of trying to get their own way.

2006-09-30 15:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by siamcatp 4 · 0 0

what form of spankings are you speaking about? I only ask because they continually artwork in our kin if used properly, and as a very last hotel. in spite of the indisputable fact that some human beings evaluate a spanking only a unmarried swat or 2. I easily have 3 females (a at the same time as 3, 7, and 10) when we could do the spanking, pants and panties come down, they bypass over the lap, and we spank their bottoms for a good lengthy at the same time as. a baby who receives an ideal spanking must be crying difficult afterwords. For the behaviors you've defined, we glance them contained in the interest, placed our hand up and use our fingers to count number to three. All my daughters recognize that if I attain 3 (it truly is very,very,very uncommon) they get a spanking. of direction, the probability of spanking is sufficient to end maximum undesirable habit, so we do not spank very regularly. in case you've not used spanking as I defined, supply it a attempt. it really is the former school way of doing issues and it does artwork best of success to you

2016-11-25 19:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You be kind and patient but you start setting the rules. You can give two minute time outs at the age of two. You can tell them no.

Another good thing to try is distraction. When your two year old starts to demand something you can distract your child with something else...a favorite toy, activity, or food. Move your child from one room to another room. If you are out in public and a tantrum ensues you put your child in their car seat and head straight home. If you are home you can head out to the park or even just drive around. Anything to distract the child from their demands!

2006-09-30 16:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0 0

He or she sounds perfectly normal. I have four kids and I have found that shouting does not help at all. When my 21 month old son gets like that, I try talking to him, if this does not work I try distracting him and if not, I put him back in the playpen and let him scream until he has calmed down. The screaming gets on your nerves, but sooner or later it stops and each time you do this it stops sooner and sooner. but u know yourself, ur a mum and you just have to grin and bear it..it all goes by..lol!

2006-09-30 15:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gary H 3 · 0 0

That is every two year old....try 1-2-3 magic book available at Amazon.com
My sister in law is a child psychatrist and has had great success with that book.

2006-09-30 15:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by carolinagal75 3 · 0 0

Let them make small decisions. This gives them the power/control they are looking for. If you let the pick what shirt or shoes to wear, they will feel more independent. Let small things be decided by them and they will be more apt to listen to you in more important areas. At this age, they are becoming more indepentdent, but still need guidance. When you do need to tell them no or make the decision, tell them why. Most kids can understand a simple explaination at this age. Like, he has to wear his coat because "it's cold outside." When you tell him to do something, leave no room for arguing. Instead of saying "do you want to...?" tell them..."we're going to..."

2006-09-30 16:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by MommaStaci 2 · 0 0

Have you always given in to your child even when s/he was naughty when s/he was younger? That's what my cousin did. Try to punish her son but wanted him to be quiet so they gave in to his tantrums. When I babysat him, he knew that he wouldn't get away with anything and that his tantrums didn't help him in the least.

What you might need to do is ignore the tantrum. I know thatwill be hard but it will work. Also get down to her/his level and say something like "That's naughty." in a firm voice. My three kids respond better when I get to their level rather than screaming at them. Good Luck and God Bless!!

2006-10-01 03:39:38 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0 0

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