I'm 21female in the air force. We got married before my basic so he could come with me after. He's a civilian. He gets stressed with my schedule. Sometimes I work swing shift which is from 3pm- 1am (usually) so I hardly see him sometimes.
Do marriages that start before the military usually last? My flisht chiefs (master sgt and above kept telling me not to complain about scheduling when i first got to my base because marriges dont last) I've been in for 16 months. I'm going on my first deployment in a few months.
2006-09-30 15:30:51 · 12 answers · asked by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
well lemme say first ive been in the air force about 6 years now so i know where ur comin from. theres a lotta haters. ppl see u happy, and theyre gonna do what they can to bring u down to their level. thats a fact. a lotta couples in the military arent happy. has nuthin to do with u, dont buy into it. i know a lotta ppl in ur situation, either tech school romance or somethin before. the biggest gripe is definitely deployments, time apart, everything ur doin now. whether or not ur marriage last really depends on u and him, how mature you are, if he really knows what ur getting into? the way i feel, if the guy really loves you, hell do whatever he can to be with u, no matter what. you plannin on bein a lifer? if ur thinkin that way but havent talked about it, u should really discuss with ur mate. but as far as them tellin u marriages dont last, their doin u a diservice and ppl like that are just bitter and have no place givin advice to u. i got married after tech school and have deployed with her twice, and also without her so i got some experience, trust me. ive been where u are now, and i know where ur goin. if u wanna hit me up sometime, be glad to give u whatever advice u need.
2006-09-30 15:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most marriages that happen during basic and technical/advanced training don't tend to last. Additionally, high ops tempo unit members tend to have a high divorce rate. On the other hand, marriage in the military is an individual thing and requires alot of work and compromise, same as for civilians. I'm in the military and have been married 35 years. It can work, but requires commitment on both parts. By the way, I am a Chief Master Sergeant and I hope the advise you received from your senior ncos was given in jest. Best of luck!
2006-09-30 15:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any specific statistics but there are definetly difficulties to make marriages work within the military lifestyle. I grew up in the lifestyle (my father is a career Marine) and I will also soon enter it as a Marine wife and it is a hard road to travel. Marriage is hard enough, but then couple that with your spouse constantly being deployed, spending a year in a war zone, stress, long hours, etc. It's a difficult life. But I would venture to say that if two people really love each other and really embrace the military lifestyle, they'll make it work. I've seen many happy couples. I'm sure you will be one of them, if you and your husband make sure you communicate. I think that's key in any marriage, but even more so in military life. Take care and good luck!
Ps. If you need any advice or anything... then please feel free to email me :o)
2006-09-30 15:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 21.. that in and of itself is a strike against you. Young people who jump into marriages too quickly to get BAH or Housing or bring their current squeeze along often end up with failed marriages, because they didn't take the time to actually understand what a commitment marriage truly is.
Frankly, you would have been better off not getting married before basic. the first two years of any servicemember's life is extremely fluid, stressfull and is NO way to start a strong foundation of mnarriage upon. You would have been far better off waiting until you got to your first duty station. If he was still around, then it was meant to be. if he couldn't handle it( and not everyone IS strong enough to be a military spouse) it would have been far better to discover that before you got married.
2006-10-01 06:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Magic 8 ball says.......... Things are not looking good.
Ok, now everybody give me the thumbs down. But at least I'm honest. I don't know how the Air Force is but marriages in the Corps are doomed!
2006-09-30 15:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by SGT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know specifics on millitary or marriage I just happened to see your question and wanted to say "Thank You". Ihope your marriage does well,but even more I hope you stay well.Relationships can come and go , lets face it the best sex is "make-up-sex".I hope he's there when you come home , You reallly have enough to think about without this."
2006-09-30 16:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by locksniffer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,,, awww,, geee,, i hate to hear this,, if your as cute as your avatar,,, darn,,
Most 1st marriages are not too stable it seems,, half or more usually end up failed... I was in the Army and was in Desert Storm vol. I... and got handed my divorce papers over there,,,
Hang in there,, i suggest not having any children until you know what is going to happen,,,,
good luck
2006-09-30 15:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-30 15:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage can work if you love each other. my husand is military and we have spent alot of time apart. we still love each other just as much now as we did when we got together. sometimes we have to think about the other person instead of ourselves, or our children. we make sacrifies for our love and his work. it all works out for us.
good luck!
2006-09-30 16:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by ARMYWIFE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about % if you want your marriage to work it will work.
hang in there everything will be fine. good luck in your deployment.
2006-09-30 15:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by RayRay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋