Never thought I was a racest !
2006-09-30 15:29:16 · 24 answers · asked by JAMES H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you need to get over that.
What difference could it possibly make? It just makes you look bad now. The past is the past, it's insane to hold something like that against someone...the only one doing something wrong here is you.
If you love her, than just accept the fact that she was not born complete as you see her standing before you today...she has been living, and growing for a long time, and there are many fascets of that life that were not done for your approval. If you love her, just be glad she is with you now, and don't force her to move on by being a jerk.
2006-09-30 15:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has a past, some good and a lot not so good but if you can't let the past stay back there than you better think seriously about continuing your relationship with this woman you claim to love so much.No one wants to have their past constantly thrown up in their face.
You sound like you've discovered something about yourself and it's a sad thing to think you are a racist especially being in the past.A man is a man. A human is a human. We are all flesh and blood. I suggest you take a breather and think for awhile before you lose the one you love.
Is it really that bad or worth it?
2006-09-30 22:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah hun........you might want to get some counseling to deal with that, especially if you never thought it was an issue. It might not be an issue, it may be something else to do with that relationship....maybe it was the shacking up you didn't approve of...unless of course you are. I don't consider myself racist, there have been a few really hot black guys I have met, but would I choose a relationship with one....probably not. No good reason, I just wouldn't. I probably wouldn't choose any really dark skinned person.......some nice shades of brown sure.....there is just something, and its not that I don't find them attractive, but there is something about dark skin that doesn't do it for me....I have realized it, I know it, and who cares.......I can't help what turns me on!
2006-09-30 22:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What about it bothers you? Was she roommates with him, or lovers? Are you araid that since she's "gone black" she'll never really "go back" and therefore it's just a matter of time til you lose her? Is there anything else in the relationship that is making you feel insecure right now?
2006-09-30 22:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Pistachio T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Surprised huh? A man is a man and a woman a woman. Period. How about another woman? would that have been easier to take? You're not all that and a bag of chips after all I guess.
2006-09-30 22:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by anon_y_muse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First ask yourself why i can't deal with this is it because this person was a black man. How long have you been dating this female. what happen that you found out this information. You said once how long was once. and if you can't deal with it then are you going to let your realationship go because of it
2006-09-30 22:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by the sweetest 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too would be bugged if my woman had lived with ANY other guy let alone the colour. Is it really the colour that bothers you?
Oh I see, youre worried you might not be BIG enough to meet the challenge LOL!
Dump her and move on.
2006-09-30 22:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure I understand why this is a problem.
Are you afraid that somehow the color has rubbed off on her and your children will be mixed?
Do you think less of her because she lived with a black man?
Are you afraid the quality of your sex will compare unfavorably with his?
Get over it , buddy.
D
2006-09-30 22:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
and how is that any different if she had lived with a white guy? grow up its 2006.. just because somebody has different colored skin doesnt mean anything.stop being so racist already and get over it
2006-09-30 22:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by ♥charlies angel♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what the hell u mean by a black guy waht does that have 2 do with anything racist
2006-09-30 22:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋