He claims to "adore" me but says that he'll never be able to love again. We live together and are talking about having kids. I think I'm going crazy. What would you do?
2006-09-30 15:26:30 · 19 answers · asked by Pistachio T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he says he adores you but will never be able to love again why on earth did you move in with him. don't have children they put more pressure on your relationship. move out. tell him that when he has got this other girl out of his system that is when he can get in touch. you deserve more than being second best and if you cant be first in his life then you should come first in another mans life.
2006-09-30 15:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are crazy for thinking about having kids with a guy who claims he will never love you! It`s bad enough that he can`t love you, but what if you have a kid and he can`t love it because he doesnt love you? It might help if you start a family, but that is not a guaruntee and I would never risk putting a child through that! If I was in your place I would dump him, but you obviously want to stay because you live with him. You should just work on your relationship and getting him to open up and learn to let go of the past and love again. He WILL be able to some day and it sounds like he is just still hurting right now. If he adores you and you live with him, then you have made some progress. Keep at it but don`t have any children with him until he gets past this hurt and tells you that he does love you. Bringing a child into the situation could make it worse. Also, don`t you want to have children with someone who loves you and not just some guy who can`t open up to you? Don`t risk it! Good luck!
2006-10-01 03:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by slipknots love slave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u need to listen to yourself read your question over he claims to adore me he will never love agiain love mean caring for a person well being we live together thinking about having kids. What if he leaves you and the kids. I wouldn't even think of having kids with a confuse person
2006-09-30 22:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by the sweetest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question that only can answer. Do I deserve more than this? Do I deserve to be loved by someone that I am giving ALL my love to?
I am not judging you because I know this hard. I am sure you have made all that investment into the relationship but is this what you want for the rest of you life? Being with someone who can't or is afraid of loving me the way I deserved to be loved?
2006-09-30 22:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but he's telling you that he just wants to be friends. See you can adore a friend, but if he's not gonna love you then why say with him? Obvously this Realationship isn't going any where. Sorry I have to tell you the truth.
2006-09-30 22:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.DRE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know what to do actually. I would stay with him and see how it turns out for a while. If he can't ever say he loves you soon then you should leave him. Cause if he can't love you do you think he will ever stay faithful to you too.
2006-09-30 22:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jason R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long did ittake you to type this question?
That was too long...let him go. If he really is "crazy" about you, he'll find his way to you.
Otherwise..you deserve to be loved by one who is ready, willing and able to do so...God will see to it, if you believe in Him.
2006-09-30 22:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by altolori2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel it wont work out than the only thing to do is to let him go. I've been hurt before too, probably more than he was. but i learned that you cant make someone fall in love just like that someone doesn't really choose who they love.
2006-09-30 22:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together and are thinking about having kids then why woulnt he be able to love agian? He loves you, if he didnt then he wouln't want to have kids with you and he wouldn't want to live with you.
2006-09-30 22:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by dancingurl_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you're willing to stick around a be a doormat. I personally would get out now, but it's hard when you have strong feelings for a person.
2006-09-30 22:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by bernie2u4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋