Now that I kicked the ol' man out where do I begin?

Question

I got kids, i'm a college student and I kicked the jerk out. Now, where do I start?

Answer 1

You have too focus on yourself getting yourself mentally back together it may sound easy trust me i know it is not easy it takes time to begin over. But don't rush into anything just focus on self

Answer 2

I'm a single mom and I know it is very hard. My x was a big jerk too. You need to start by getting some type of child support arrangement. You may need to get a lawyer, I got my support agreement through a restraining order, but I only suggest doing that if it is needed for you are the kids safety. Try asking support enforcement for advice. Finishing your education is very important, unfortunately it makes it hard to support your kids. Do not give up, tons of us do it and you can to. People tell me all the time life only gives you what you can handle the stronger you are the harder it can get but there is always joy you can find in your kids. No matter what happens look at those precious faces and know that they are better off. Some days are so hard for me that all I want to do is cry, but then my daughter gives me a hug and tells me its ok. Don't rush out and try to find someone right away, give yourself time. You can get all the support you need from family and friends. Good luck I'm sure everything will work out for you.

Answer 3

Honey I'm a little bit older than you so take it from me...the last thing you need in your life is a 'new' man.You need to make a list of your priorities and put your name at the top.While some may disagree and say that your kids should come first...i simply say this because your gonna be totally useless to 'them' if you cant help yourself. If this is only a temporary separation then you need to take stock of your life and decide on what terms you will take him back. If this is the final straw then i can only wish you the best.The fact that you're still in school is going to be a challenge [if it wasn't already.] This is a time when you need to have the support of your family and friends. I don't know your circumstances in respect to this but i hope you can garner their support.You could also look at your local social services for help but you really first and foremost need to re-evaluate your current situation and decide What it is you want, What its gonna take to achieve this,and how much pride is gonna stop you from reaching this goal for the sake of your kids. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU ALL.

Answer 4

1st. Hurray!! for you.
2nd. Make sure you can support yourself and the kids. (if the kids belong to him, get child support)
3. Stay in school (make something of yourself)
4. Take your time before you begin a relationship with someone else)
5. Enjoy your life and hang tough.
Good Luck

Answer 5

Well there is no certain formula to make things work, you have to know what you want. What will make you happy? One important thing to do is save money and do not spend more than you have to. Continue your schooling and make something of your life. Get that cash to make your life financially stable. and enjoy!

Answer 6

I'd forget about starting and just keep on keeping on. Sounds like you're busy, that's probably a good thing to keep you going. Best of luck to you.,

Answer 7

just start again...and don't look back..."the key to sucess in life is to create a brand new mistake every day...if you can't do that, then just don't bother making any" It's pretty good advice a friend gave me once...don't repeat your mistakes with your next relationship...you already saw how that worked.

Answer 8

Pay some extra attention to the kids and console them because they don't have an immediate father figure to go to. :)

Answer 9

start by changing your locks and getting a security system for the home in case he tries to break in

Answer 10

Take time to get to know yourself. If you know what you want and where you're going, you won't end up back where you just came from.