One of my friends at school is a 16 year old girl.
She was regularly having sex with her boyfriend whom I don't know.
She came up to me a little bit ago and told me that she was pregnant.
She said that if she didn't have an abortion, her boyfriend would kill himself.
She my be a sophomore, but she told me she won't drop out of high school, but she's giving up cheerleading, walking down the graduation isle, and so forth.
She tried to ask me for advice but I was like "uh.."
Help me out? Thanks.
2006-09-30 15:13:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She does want to keep it, but she also loves her B/f
2006-09-30 15:19:15 · update #1
First off the boyfriend isn't going to kill himself. He's only using that as a disgusting way of pressuring her into an abortion. From the way he sounds I don't think she will be able to count on him if she keeps the baby. One she will need to tell her parents. That will be difficult. Good for her to continue on in school. If she has the baby she can go back to cheerleading if she enjoys it so much. She shouldn't sacrific participation in her graduation ceremony. Let her know your her friend. That things will change if she keeps the baby. It won't ruin her life it will alter everything. Tell her to stay strong and keep her head up. You being someone she came to for advise sounds trustworthy. Continue to support her. Hope this helps the two of you out.
2006-09-30 15:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by giya_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances her boyfriend will actually kill himself over something like this are not very good. (unless (and this is a big unless) he has had suicidal thoughts or actions before) The fact that he wont' take responsiblity may mean she will have to do this alone. If she has her parents support, its possible for her to stay in school and walk down the graduation asle. Cheerleading is out (shes right) but there is no reason for her to drop out of school. At 16 she can drive, and she has time to get her life back together (again, assuming her parents are willing to support her) the best advice I can give you and her is that she needs to give that a try. Her parents will be mad, upset and disappointed, but if she really wants to keep the baby, their support will make or break her. She needs to talk with them about what her options are and why she wants to have the baby. If they are willing to help, she does not need to worry about the guy. She can do this, unfortunatly in this day and age, many girls do go though this. However, an abortion should not rest on the boyfriend killing himself. I won't say at her age it is not a plausable option, but she should also consider adoption and having/keeping the baby. hang in there.
2006-09-30 17:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may love her boyfriend, but she is taking a life if she has an abortion. He will get over it, he's just acting like an immature selfish brat. She needs to talk to her mom or a counselor to get some help. There are tons of places out there who can help her while she is pregnant and then once the baby is born. The main thing is that she needs to tell her parents now, there is no use in hiding it, that will only make it worse. However, you need to get her to realize how terrible it would be for her to have an abortion and kill a baby. Its not the babies fault it was created. No man is worth giving up your child for! You are a good friend to try and help her out!
2006-09-30 15:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to stop thinking about her boyfriend, who doesn't even care about her feelings, and think about her child. She will need to give up cheerleading but she can still go to her graduation and prom.
She doesn't have to give up her life.
By a good friend and babysit for her from time to time. Make sure she goes to college or a tradr school at least, for example she can train to be a medical assistant in 11months, or go to beauty school and graduate in 18months.
A good move for her a far as money, after she's had the baby would be for her to go into the server industry.
Waitress don't really need training and u can work 2-3 days a week and make a good $200-300 a week at least
2006-09-30 17:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, her boyfriend needs to grow up. If he was man enough to make the baby, then he should deal with the consequences. Sounds to me like he's trying to lay a guilt trip on your friend. Tell her to do whats best for her and most likely everything else will fall in place. It's amazing how people change once the baby has arrived!! Most people WILL step up to the plate. If he does try to kill himself, at least everyone is forwarned and can do what they can to stop it.
2006-09-30 15:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Tamara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more info? does she WANT to keep the baby? teenagers threaten to kill themselves all the time, lets face it most of the time its not true. Sounds like an empty threat from him to get her to do what he wants.. so if she doesnt have an abortion, he's going to kill himself ...but if she does, shes going to kill her baby? sounds like an easy choice to me... He doesnt sound like Mr. Supportive does he? Not sure what kinda of advice she really needs tho, your question was a bit vague on that.
2006-09-30 15:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mina222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to keep the baby. Her boyfriend will live.
2006-09-30 15:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to talk with her mom and dad. It's going to be scary but ok. This is not the end.
2006-09-30 17:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by CARRIE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋