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2006-09-30 15:09:10 · 23 answers · asked by Developing Love 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Best way to deal with this is before going to church is prayer. Prayer has helped me overcome my shyness. I use to be so shy and I grew up in the church. It wasn't until I started praying that gave me the strength to overcome my shyness to meet new people. "God works in mysterious ways." He can work in your life too!
2006-09-30 15:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the answers here, at least the serious ones. It's normal to feel self conscious in any new situation. People won't be looking at you, except maybe to come over and shake your hand and introduce themselves to you.
A lot of the answers suggest you sit in the back. Good luck with that! LOL! Have you ever heard of the term "Back row Baptist" or "Back Row Catholic"? A lot of the regulars have laid claim to the back seats! I have always found that there is ALWAYS plenty of seating up front---so that's where I sit. It also provides less distraction for me, as I can see the Priest through the whole Mass and all the other distractions are behind me.
If you go to a Catholic Mass, try and go with a friend. If that's not possible, just go. It's ok. No one will bite. We are up and down a lot--just follow what everyone else does. For the first couple of Masses you attend you may just want to sit and absorb. A lot happens, and it can be overwhelming.
You may want to go to Saturday afternoon Mass. There's less of a crowd there on Saturday afternoons than Sunday mornings. My wife goes to a Baptist church. Her church has two Sunday morning services and the first one is always less crowded than the second one.
You've got the right heart, Step Up. New things can be scarey, but going to a new church doesn't have to be one of them. Believe me, the people there will only be glad to see you. Best of luck!
2006-10-01 12:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. When I decided I wanted to go to a church, I found one but kept putting off going because I didn't want to walk into a room full of strangers.
Then I realized that this is the devil keeping me away from where God wants me to be and I wasn't going to allow him to put my eternal soul at risk like that.
Just look at it like this. The first time you go you might feel awkward, but after that, you'll have been there and it will be so much easier. If you are fortunate enough to find a really great church, like I did, they will end up becoming your family.
I am so thankful that I bit the bullet and walked in that church that day. You will be, too.
2006-09-30 15:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Good question and I am happy to see that you have the desire to goto church. I have to say that I to USE to be shy about trying new things,etc. My husband and I tried several churches and we always tended to sit in the back. It worked because you really didn't feel like all eyes were on you. We tried church after church until we eventually quit going. I knew in my heart that I needed to be in church. I prayed about it a lot. Finally, we were invited to a church by a friend and we decided to give it a chance. We have not left since and it has been four years and counting. This church was different than all the others. Yes, we were still greeted w/ the handshaking and occassionally asked to fill out a visitor card...which we dreaded; but this time was different.....we were embraced and didnt feel like strangers coming in. It really felt like a big family. And now we call them our extended family! After that, I couldn't wait to get back. My advice to you is to simply pray about it and try going in w/ an open attitude and observe everything. If you like what you see and get a good feel for it, then try it again. If you are truly committed in going to church, praying about it and asking God to help you w/ your fears is the answer for you. Don't give up! You never know what God has in store for you. Always remember that there will be set backs sometimes; but nothing is to big for GOD! "I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me" Being fearful is Satan's way of taking control. When you hear him (Satan) knocking at your hearts door...Just say God, can you get that for me! A friend shared that w/ me and I say it and use it all the time! Good luck and I will be praying for you! :)
2006-09-30 15:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mandee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you that you're making the attempt. I'm also very shy and the thought of going someplace new and meeting so many new people paralyzes me.
Perhaps you could ask one of your Christian friends or co-workers if you could attend with them one Sunday. Then at least you know you've got one friend there. They can tutor you on what to to during different parts of the service so you don't feel awkward, and introduce you to other people before or after service. Chritians are always glad to see a new face in the church!
2006-09-30 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by RazzleDazzle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could start looking for churches that have ministries that you are interested in. Some have a focus to the poor, others are missions-oriented, a friend of mine attends one where conservation is considered part of the work of the church. When you are working shoulder to shoulder with folks on projects you care about, it'll be easy to feel at home. It's not like standing around a party with a beer trying to think of things to say....
You can become familiar with faces on Sunday morning, but until people know you are someone new (hard for the others to tell who is new in a big church) you may feel isolated.....
BUT...if you throw your shoulders back, march up to someone who looks like he or she is "in charge" you will be talking to a person who LIVES to get shy people like yourself into small groups where you'll feel comfortable.
And the first answerer made a good point. On Sunday morning, focus on God, and hearing Him through the Bible reading and the sermon, and pour your heart out to him while you sing. When I was looking for a church, I was amazed at how close I felt to God, even in churches that for one reason or another, weren't "the best fit" for my particular family.
May God be with you on this exciting pilgrimage!
2006-09-30 15:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by miraclewhip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go, you'll be OK. It is always hard at first. I sat in the back of my Church for weeks before I felt comfortable enough to interact, in fact I would come in after Service began, and leave at the Alter Call just so I wouldn't have to interact. People noticed and went out of their way to come to me during the Service and speak to me, and make me feel more comfortable. I have been there 13 Years now, and am an Associate Minister.
2006-09-30 15:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Minister 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go to church, then by all means, go. God and the Holy Spirit will get you through it. I was shy too, but after I started church, I hold a few offices in church, teach Sunday School on occasion, and even sing a solo once in awhile. God can do wonderful things if you give Him a chance.
2006-09-30 15:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by stullerrl 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with pourin.
Remember what Jesus said in Matthew 10 : 33 - 'But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven'. And also, remember that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
So, to deal with this, pray to God that he makes you bold in your service to him and that he takes away all fear of being in 'church' from your mind. Pray sincerely. You can talk to God you know. Tell him exactly how you feel same as you just need on the internet. The difference will be that he will give you more than just answers, but also an assurance of peace within.
The decision to commit your life to God can never be made too soon. I encourage you in the Lord, my sister. God bless. You are in my prayers.
2006-09-30 15:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋