My boyfriend and I have some abandonment issues with each other. We spend so much time together we've become addicted to each other. When we separate for just one night....its heart breaking. I'm over his house so much because he asks me to come over all the time when he needs me. It interferes with out perosnal obligations and goals. We work at the same job, go out together on the weekends together. I feel we will never be able if we don't leave each other. Then when time comes to live together hes scared because his family racist, the don't accept me and he's afraid they'll reject him. I'm alone...I don't speak to my family because there abusive and I have no friends because people in LA become very self-absorbed. I've reached out for friends but all my girlfriends end up becoming bi-sexual and want to have sex with me. I'm trapped in a bizarre world and I need help out. Can you love someone too much? I see people for who they are and it affect making any friends. HELP!!!!!
2006-09-30 15:09:07 · 15 answers · asked by ILAUGHATU 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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you need to hid in your cave for a while so that you break the cycle... :)
LOVE HURTS sometimes
2006-09-30 15:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweet cherry78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your guy really loves you, he will go through hell & heaven to get your love for him. People can gives you hundred, thounsand or millions of reason to make the relationship work or otherwise. If the guy family love him, they should be happy for the guy if he is happy with the girl he loves. Talk to your bf about your feeling on this. You should be more patient on finding true love. There are many nice & good guys out there for you to meet & have great times with. I'm also a guy, 30yrs still single but I'm not in a rush to get a gf just because other guys have one. Love is a beautiful thing, when the time comes, I'm sure we will find our true love. Good luck.
2006-09-30 15:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you need a little space from your man, that's ok. nothing wrong with that. it's not the end of your relationship if you don't see him for one day. also, if you need some new friends, which it sounds like you do, then go out and see if you can make some. take a college class that sounds interesting or pick up a new hobby or use an existing interest to find new people to hang out with. also, if your man is afraid his family will reject him b/c he loves you, than his family sucks. i wouldn't like my family if they were racists. most racists have so much anger and hate in their hearts, why would anyone want to be around them anyway. if you guys want to move in together, go for it and if his family objects tell them to get used to it.
2006-09-30 15:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are describing is co-dependence not love ,people who have had bad up bringings tend to want someone to love so bad it becomes un healthy.you need to work on making your self healthy before you can have a healthy and happy relationship.you need to believe you are worth the trouble and that you deserve to be happy and loved .If you don't you will end up in an abusive unhappy relationship,and have screwed up kids .look for some kind of counselling ,if your family drank go to support groups for adult children of alcoholics ,or something of that kind depending on your family's problem ,read about how to make your life better.and have faith ,life will improve if you work at improving your own out look.
2006-09-30 15:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are both co-dependent of the other, which means you guys are unhealthily needy and dependent of each other, and that can arise from what you recognized already abandonment issues and/or abuse issues. abandonment can happen from as early as childhood with the lack of connection between infant and parent....but it can happen at any period of early childhood development where there was neglect or abandonment or abuse. there's no such thing as loving someone too much if it is healthy, then it's called loving them alot....when it's unhealthy it's not called loving too much, it is referred to as being needy or controlling or possessive. i don't know if it's that you love too much in your case...it may be that you're really dependent on each other.
2006-09-30 15:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him how u feel and go bac with him u 2 are in love u love each other 2 death probably its hard 2 come by 2 couples that love eachother like this go ac 2 him and work it out
2006-09-30 15:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
damm i feel sry for u, ok with the family being racist and ****, just tell them i love my boyfreind and u cant do anything about it! and with the freidns and bisexual thing just say yo, i got a boyfriend so bak off!!!
2006-09-30 15:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by bLAh?_mickey<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with friends and ask him to marry you. If his family doesnt like you he shouldnt care tell him to pick between you and his family. If he picks his family break up with him if he picks you get married or live together.
2006-09-30 15:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is nice to be with one another but problems can come up if you are with one another all the time. give some time to be with friends.
2006-09-30 15:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u love so much just be akk over him dont woory about oter people because u nko hes yuors
2006-09-30 15:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by Truth. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋