i live in a safe neighborhood but i am still like really scared about being abducted and raped and or murdered. im like scared to walk around outside by myselfe. like just on the sidewalk in the daytime even. and when cars drive by i go into someones driveway so the person thinks i live there so they wont try to abduct me... does anyone else have this problem?? and has anyone ever been raped?? wut is it like.....?????
2006-09-30 15:07:12 · 18 answers · asked by christine 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yeah im scared of people breaking into my house too. i hate to stay home alone. and its pretty crazy because i know most likeley no ones gonna break in because i live in a nice upper middle class neighborhood... but im still scared of it...
2006-09-30 15:12:12 · update #1
Yes,Honey I've been raped,and it's worse than horrible.It happened 16yrs.ago and it's something I'll have to live with for the rest of my life.I won't give the details,because it has no bearing on what is going on with you.It's very good to have a "cautious" attitude these days,but it sounds like you for some reason are almost on the paranoid side.Did something happen to someone you know or love?Can you remember when these feelings started?And if you can remember when they started,what happened just before they did?It is very wise to follow your gut instincts,because if I would've followed mine,the rape never would've happened.But,Sweetie you can't live your life in fear like this.I would suggest that you go to a counselor,and talk this out.You are missing out on so much in life being worried and scared.Are you living on your own for the first time?Or have you heard on the news,something happened close by?I'm just trying to get you to think about what is maybe causing this.The bad thing about this also,is you may be so wrapped up in your fear,that you may not be aware of something or someone that you should.Just go talk to someone,so you can get some peace of mind.I've been raped,and I don't even worry as much as you do.I won't give ANYONE or ANYTHING that much power over me living my life.So go find out what is really going on,and start living again. Hope this helps you some.God bless you.
2006-09-30 15:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you have every reason to feel the way you do. The evening news runs rampant with stories about people who are victimized by some psycho out on the prowl. I personally chased down a car that abducted a man at a bus stop on a Friday (pay day). I couldn't keep up and the plate number that I gave to the police was of a stolen car. I remember there was a woman who was sitting on her porch and a car pulled up and two men got out and dragged her to the car and took her for a 3 hour joy ride.
The best thing you can do is what you are doing now. Be aware and don't start to think it won't happen to you. Get some Pepper Spray for protection and get a good dog to go on walks with. Carry a cell phone with you at all times and be prepared to initiate a self defense tactic should anything every really happen. It's real, it happens, be prepared. Don't ever let your guard down!
2006-09-30 15:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very many people haven't been abused at some time. There are those who get away with it. The technical law doesn't matter much if it isn't enforced, There are often warning signs and the person who does this is often someone you know. Many of the biggest upsets in our life is what we allowed to happen rather than what was forced on us. You have legitimate concerns but there are other concerns too. On a rare occasion I might have pepper spray or something like it with me. However, usually it will go unused and someone might even accuse us of using it without sufficient cause, the police might even listen if they think the other person is more important than we are.
It's not a safe world but maybe one precaution at a time will help us feel much better about it.
2006-09-30 15:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually abused from 2 to 21 by family and so called friends. I was raped at 15 by five drunken men. It is the worse to go through. I am 44 now and have been in therapy for 16 years. I had garbage up over my head when I first started seeing my therapist, now it is at butt level. I still have a lot of issues to work out. As a result of the abuse, I'm bipolar and have d.i.d. I have many fears and one is to be raped again. Its like someone tieing a rope to one foot and a rope to your wrist and tearing your legs and arms off you slowly. I am getting better as I want to heal, from all these injuries to my heart and mind. It takes a long time to work through the pain. I pray it never happens to you! Just do your best to stay safe by locking your doors and running into a drive way if someone stops their car to ask you if you want a ride. Take care and try not to worry your self sick ok! Pray to God and ask him to surround you with his power of protection.
2006-10-01 00:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by bry7josh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay in well lit areas, don't venture out alone at night, watch your drink at bars, stay with people you trust, get a security system (or a dog), and be wary of unexpected knocks at the door. If you don't expect someone, just pretend not to hear them knocking.
It is a good thing to be street smart and aware. But it sounds like you're way too worried about this. Stop watching the news, it's all negative anyway. Maybe you'd want to talk to a doctor about anxiety...
Stay safe!
2006-09-30 15:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being reped is one of the hardest things to get over trust me I have been there. You may always be looking over you shoulder wondering and scard. It all depends on the person wheather they feel confortable being alone. I do and don't at times. I would rather be with someone then to be alone but things never seem to work out that way. Take things slow one day at a time and you will gain back some of that trust you once had. Good luck....
2006-10-02 06:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife was raped well that was before I meet her. It is hard for her to talk about it but the guy went anal. I am not trying to scare you a rapist that is thinking would go to a middle class area that don't have a neighbor hood watch and pick up somebody. Try not to be scared but just be careful all of you females need to be careful because times are getting real bad.
2006-09-30 15:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by James Henderson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need the help of a therapist....seriously. It's not normal to have such irrational fear for no apparent reason. You should be cautious and use common sense about things, but there are some things for which you can't control. Life is not worth living if you're walking around petrified all the time.
2006-09-30 15:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say I was ALMOST raped once, but lucky for me, I have a pretty decent right hook.
I have a pretty good fear of it happening for real. Even if my husband is playing with me and pins me down to where I can't move, I freak out and start crying.
I don't walk around with a fear of being raped all the time though. I think if you want to get over this fear (you shouldn't get rid of it completely) try some self defense classes and learn to become very aware of your surroundings.
2006-09-30 15:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are smart to be cautious but you are going to scare yourself to the point where you will never go outside. You don't need to ask what it's like to be raped.You know that it can't be a good thing to have happen. See a counselor before you cause yourself so much fear that you stay inside all the time.
2006-09-30 15:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by redwidow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋