I really Like her but i am too shy to talk to her. Im afraid that she knows that i like her coz i always stare at her. I seriously dont know why i am so afraid to talk to her. Plz show me a way to overcome this DISEASE of mine.
2006-09-30 14:35:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Woah- easy there gunga-din. Its not a disease, its shyness. And its normal to feel this way.
Look at the reasons for your fear and you can begin to defeat them. eg...
You fear talking to because;
a. You don't want to look or sound like a fool, needy, stupid. *insert as needed*
b. You're affraid of her reaction to you. Horror, fear of you, lack of understanding, lack of desire to talk to you *again insert as needed*
What you need to understand is that she may well be feeling the same things about you!
She might well be sitting in the corner- willing herself to get up and talk to you, but not getting there because of the fear of rejection.
If she already knows you like her, then thats half the battle already won hombre!
Create a pre-text for convosation. E.g. Pairing up for an exercise in PE class, studying in the library etc.
Don't ask her out straight away. Simply talk to her. Find out her likes and dislikes. Talk to her as a friend first and then maybe next week- casually ask her out. Ask her to dinner, a show, a festival. Somewhere that you can talk to each other.
Movies are a BAD IDEA! You can't talk to each other and they're so old fashioned and cliched now. Movies are great for naughty little fumblings in the back row. (Assuming you're over 18!!)
Good luck with it and be a man! Gather your courage at one position and do not be affraid to deploy your courage when the time is right!
Now form ranks and march into battle- this will be the greatest moment of your life!
The Iceman.
2006-09-30 14:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry...this "disease" is 100% curable. First off, try overcoming your shyness, and try approaching her. Sometimes small talk, like just a quick compliment, or a nice "hi, whats up?" daily is dainty, sweet, but it gets the point through that you like her. Eventually, you go and ask for her phone number or IM so you guys can connect during and afterschool. After a lot of talking on the phone and at school has happened, you guys have obviously formed a friendship; and that way you can ask her out.
2006-09-30 21:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That shyness is not a disease...it's called inexperience.
What I'm going to tell you is something I doubt you will do but just read on.
Take the initiative...you like her and she may know it but you havn't done anything as far as talk to her. You may be sweating when you do this but get yourself together...walk right up to her and just start talking to her. You will find out real quick if she likes you are not.
Believe me...you will get turned down a lot in life....that's what to expect.
Do you have a reputatio at school? Is it good or bad? If your the average Joe then you have a chance to shine. What have you got to lose? Being turned down? Rejection? Go right up to her and just start talking and try not to stutter.
Now if all you wanna do is 'bone' her...make sure your jock strap is tightly secured and if she asks...tell her it's your lunch.
2006-09-30 21:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Magicman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey man! do you got friends? They in gym with you? Having friends sometimes can help you or piss you off! But just do it by yourself. It means you got guts to walk up and talk.
Ok start off. Smile, funny, respect, nice. Girls look for that about a guy! And the way you dress! Dont be goth or over do it with colonge. Not all girls dig what u see on tv! soo just figure what she likes! But just be nice.. GIrls will come to you!! good luck pal
2006-09-30 21:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by vaiosoft 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all it's normal and u dnt hav a disease lolz. You need 2 be confident and go talk to her, just about normal things at first. Trust me I'm a girl i kno. And if she does turn out to be snobby then she's not worth it. Good luck! :-) And remember, be yourself!
2006-09-30 21:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a girl, but i would know about this pretty well. Just talk to her. Think of what you are going to say before you say anything to her because if you don't plan then you will probably end up talking jibbrish.
2006-09-30 21:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Bee C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, that is very normal, usually this happens if you feel she is out of your league. However, if you think you have a chance with her and that she is in your league, just talk to her about anything
2006-09-30 21:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by mister w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a not a disease because I am just like you. Give it some time. You sound really young, so do not waste your time on he if she is not marriage material.
2006-09-30 21:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by 120 IQ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i swear we dont bite ;). if she is worth your time, she will be glad that you just came over and said hi to her. just do it, or you'll always just be staring. come on, give in to peer pressure. you know you want to!
2006-09-30 21:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by chikka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
haha.. same with me but now i learned just go up to her.. talk about a class.. a techer that s*cks... trust thats how it will start.
2006-09-30 21:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lead, not Follow. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋