For guys only.... What can women do to keep you happy and not look for other women?

Question

I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. I may only have two or three weeks total to spend with him for the rest of the year (He's a military man) I am understanding, but sometimes when I think about it, it does make me sad. He ask me what's wrong and I say nothing, but I am just thinking about the fact that he will be leaving me soon. I want to seem strong because I don't want to be a nag, and I don't want him to feel bad about something he can't control. I just often feel military man or not because this is not just limited to the military I suppress my feelings to make sure I am that understanding girlfriend, to make sure I am not a nag, to make sure I have his back and that what ever he has to go through "we" will go through it together, but it takes a toll on me sometimes. This is not something he has asked me to do this is just something I feel I am suppose to do. My question is this what women are suppose to do in order to keep her man happy? If not tell me what is.

When I say is that what we are suppose to do what I mean is make sure the man is happy at our expense.

Answer 1

First of all, your man being away most of the time in the military makes a relationship tough enough. You seem to put a lot of emphasis on him - what about you? Are you comfortable with him being gone a lot? Are you happy with this relationship? Your final couple of sentences indicate that you might not be enjoying the direction of the relationship. As a guy, it would bother me if my girlfriend was putting this much pressure on herself to be happy and/or make me happy. To answer your question - no. You have to be selfish sometimes and make yourself happy. That comes first. Relationships won't work when one person feels pressured or obligated to make the other person happy.

Answer 2

Ultimately, you need to show him that you are so unique that you are capable of offering him something that no other woman would give him. Here are some tips:
1a) Write to him often. If I was away for 50 or so weeks from my girlfriend, I'd really appreciate it if she wrote letters to me often. I'd be more than happy to read how things are going for her at home and how she still remembers me and all the things we went through in the past. If she could also write about how my parents and friends are doing while I'm away, that would make her letter much more valuable.
1b) Send him a picture of you and of something interesting. That will have a tremendous impact on him.
2) Continue to show respect and appreciation for him. Compliment his actions and decisions. Also, let your feelings out for him. Few women actually do this.
3) Show off a bit of your creativity and knowledge, whether it is through playing musical instruments or through cooking or through holding mature conversations. This shows him that you have a lot more to offer to him than simply sex.
4) Do NOT appear to be sad in front of him anymore. Guys hate to see sad women since it just ruins their day. Instead, say that you're going to miss him, but that once he returns, you will do "something special" for him. That would definitely cheer him up and assure you that he will be back for you.

Answer 3

I cannot begin to imagine the situation you face, but I will try to offer the best advice I can.

The next time your man asks you whats wrong...

TALK TO HIM!!!

Give him the honour of being able to handle the situation. I would imagine he is a big boy and able to take care of himself.

The worst thing for your relationship is for one or the both of you to stop communicating and start keeping secrets.

My Mum and Dad stopped communicating. This led to not loving each other and finally to not respecting and then to divorce.

Say to him that you want to be supportive, that you don't want to "nag" him or add to his concerns. He will more than likely (if he's worth keeping around), take you in his arms and talk to you.

Failing that find a soldiers wives support site on the net. I'm sure there are loads.

The Iceman.

Answer 4

Hi,,, well having been in the military myself.. I can say that if he is going to cheat on you,,, there is nothing you can do to prevent him from doing so...
The best thing is to support him and write a bunch of letters ect ,, card,,, to him,,, and let him know how much you care about him,,,
If he is just going somewhere here in the states,, maybe you can visit him,, sometime,, if he has leave....
If he is being sent overseas,, just e-mail and talk to him when you can,,, and pray for him,,,,,

Good luck

Answer 5

I am not a guy BUT there isn't anything you can do to make your man stay away from other women. A man will be a man no matter what. If the opportunity presents itself it's his responsibility to say no because you mean more to him than a quick nutt or he will fall into temptation.
Now if and when he does stray and you find out you will have to decide if you are willing to forgive and forget or let it go.

Answer 6

The absolutely most important thing you can do for a man is something NOT to do. Don't expect your guy to change quickly (we all change throughout our lives; we men hate to be told to change behavior to suit someone else, ' Or else' I've heard women say on the wedding day,"I'll change him". ( my cousin's new bride said it, marriage lasted 5 weeks). Just love your guy the way you do and you'll be OK. OK? I know these things 'cause I'm an old army rat. LUV, -- Rat

Answer 7

You do everything just perfect. Just tell him how much you love him, miss him - show your heart and feeling. This is the most important for men to keep him happy. To know he has the Angel
always with him.

Answer 8

cologne helps yet i think of the real key to creating married women human beings happy is to handle her like noone else ever would desire to.. not purely with funds yet via commencing as much as her and only being somebody she will talk in self assurance to... i assume what makes me happy is stable intercourse and a stable over all companion.. not too confusing to thrill as long as i'm quantity one in the e book of issues to do..

Answer 9

Interesting question and so many answers to give.

Each individual is different, each relationship is different. Men are men and they will always look. I've been married to my beautiful wife for 17 years and I still look at other women.. I only "park my car in her garage".

But back to the question...is it look 'at' or look 'for'? If you are treating him with respect and he is doing the same to you(and of course laying him whenever) then he won't look 'for'.

Answer 10

Honestly? Constant Blowjobs....I know that sounds kind of petty, but....the way to a man's heart is through his dick. Good luck with the relationship.