Scenario 2?

Question

My two girls share a bedroom with eachother (one is 14 months the other is 1 month old). My one month old still wakes up several times during the night...should I put her to sleep in their room, even though every time the baby woke up and cried, it woke up the 14month old and she cried because I came in the room to get her little sister and not her?

Answer 1

nope i would separate them so that the 14 month old can get some sleep, its not fair for her to have to be woken up all through the night, and she will probably be cranky the next day which is a bad thing when you are already tired from being up with the new baby.

Answer 2

That's a tough one. I would get a bassinet or pack and play to put into your room for the 1 month old...she is way too young to sleep for extended periods of time as you 14month old does. Sounds like your older baby isn't sleeping well through the night and that could cause her to be fussy during the day. Also, she probably does not understand why you are coming into her room and not taking her out too when she is crying. Putting the lil one in your room will solve a lot of problems right now. When the 1months old starts sleeping the night, you can put her back into the shared room! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

For now I would suggest putting the 1 month old in your room. This will allow the 14-month old to get needed sleep and also eliminate the confusion as to why you are getting her sister and not her. If the baby is already in a crib, hopefully you have room in your bedroom to just move her in there. It will make the transition later easier for her. If space is too tight for a crib, try a bassinet. Having the baby in your room will also make it easier for you to feed her or comfort her at night. I would try to switch her back to her room around 4 or 5 months old if you can. Hopefully, she will be sleeping longer hours at night by then. Any longer, you run the risk of a tough transition for her. Many babies start to experience seperation anxiety between 4 and 6 months. My 1st baby was in our room until 7 months and had a very difficult time making the switch to her room- it was like she was terrified of being alone. Even my mother-in-law finally admitted one night that she was not just crying for attention but seemed downright scared. She continued to have sleep difficulties for a couple years. Even now at age 3, she still wakes up a couple times a night looking for me. My second baby moved into her room in a crib at 4 months. She was sleeping through the night at 5 months and never had a problem sleeping on her own except when teething or sick. Good luck! My 2 younger girls are 22 months apart. They keep me busy!

Answer 4

I don't think it's a good idea for them to share a room. The 1 month old is too young. You are going to create jealousy issues between them because the 14 month old will start thinking you care for the 1 month old more. Not to mention the older one may start resenting the younger one for not being able to sleep through the night and waking her up.

Answer 5

Just a thought: Maybe, atleast until they stop crying so much, take the 1 month old, put her to sleep in a different room before you put both of them to sleep. You could put an object in the crib in which the 1 month old sleeps so the 14 month old can perceive her as still being there. Babies see things as objects, and I hope this suggestion doesn't sound too crude, but it could work.

Answer 6

One month should be in the room with you. 14 month needs as much rest as possible. Keep the 1 month in your room for at least 5 more months.

Answer 7

Put them in sepearate rooms.