I live with my mom and stepdad and 4 other bro's and sis's. I am the oldest (16), and i don't think i can stand them anymore! I don't go out w/ friends, don't have a phone,don't have a boyfriend,can't use my home phone, no,job,can't drive..Nothing! My family are JW's(don't really agree with all rules) and my biological father lives in Wash. D.C.(not a JW) and i really want to live w/ him, but i don't know how to tell my rents i want to leave. I am so stressed here and tired of being here, I love school just because i'm not home. Only problem is my dad use to beat my mom and he lives with women b/c he can't afford a house, but i don't have anyone else to live with? What should i do?
2006-09-30 14:12:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you have 3 choices.
1. stay home and talk to your parents, ask for an elder to be present if you want.
2. move out and into the streets. (If you think life is terrible now, that would be really terrible.)
3. move in with your real father, who is know to beat women, who can't afford his own place, so what kind of other woman you will have to live with.
Until you're 18 you can't legally do choices 2 or 3.
I have to assume your mom has legal guardianship.
Maybe the restrictions you've listed is because of the attitude you've displayed in your question.
Having raised a 23 year old and a 19 year old, I know life at 16 can be difficult. but no matter how "rough" it is today, If you try the other two choices, life will be worse.
You can't change your parents beliefs, and you can only change your own desires and attitudes.
Prov 18:1
2006-10-02 09:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by TeeM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural for a teenager to reach a stage where they can't stand being at home anymore. You'll probably butt heads with your mom more and more because it's tough for 2 women to live in the same home once they are adults.
Moving into a home where physcial assaults were present would not be a good choice. You mother has taken many steps to make sure violence was moved far from your home.
Parents hold things until their children are ready for them rather than keeping it from their childern because they are mean. Car keys to an 8 year old would just be foolish, but to a 17 or 18 year old with a license and insurance, the keys would be more appropriate. Costs could be a factor but not something a parent would/should discuss with their child. The parent simply says what will happen and when.
Stay at home and focus on everything your mother does do for you instead of the things you can't do. Focus on the meals you eat, clothing, shoes, parties, church, school activities, electricity, Christmas gifts, etc...
Ask your church youth pastor's wife for counsel and advice.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-30 14:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom and see if they could give you more freedom and priveledges. See if they will let you get a job because if your dad beat on your mom there is a good chance he is doing it to the other women and you don't wanna live in that situation.
2006-09-30 14:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to you dads house and tell your mom and your stepdad that you cant handel not having your own space that you are to crouded being in a house with that many people and let them know that it is not because you dont love good luck hope i helped a little
2006-09-30 14:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by tawni T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
youre not old enough to move out. you have to wait till youre 18
2006-09-30 14:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, please stay.
It seems as though your current household cares for you, and only want to protect you. Please give them another chance, and maybe make more of an effort to discuss your concerns frankly and calmly.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/archives/index.htm#young_people
2006-10-02 21:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY TIL U TURN 18 THEN LEAVE
2006-09-30 14:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by shariecollins2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋