I know it's wrong, but I fell in love with a missionary. After spending six months holding hands and resisting, we began kissing. In a matter of weeks the mission president found out and gave him the option of going home and being disfellowshiped or promising not to speak to me, see me, or think of me until he is transferred... He loved and wanted to marry me, but now I have no idea if he thinks I'm just a huge sinful mistake... What the heck?
2006-09-30 14:09:24 · 20 answers · asked by Tara 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sorry Tara - but does this not speak volumes to you about your church?
Free your mind and pursue your love
2006-09-30 14:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to tell you this young lady, but you did make a big mistake, and he made a huge mistake. And if your Bishop did not insist on sending him home, he also made a huge mistake! One more thing? What was he doing in one place for six months? Who ever was responsible for this also made a big mistake. Just why do think that most stay for short periods of time. Hey! One other thing, any of his companion elders that knew about this, ya, they too made a big mistake. Having said all of that, if he loves you as you say, he will be back. Repent your sins, and God will know. But you know what? We are all human. We all fall in love, and I do hope that yours is true love. Sorry for the lecture, but it is all correct. I also hope in huge quantities that you are over 18. Because if you are not, then it becomes a huge, huge, huge, mistake. May God's love shine you always. (Signed) A fellow Mormon, although not a practicing one.
And to the others who answered this question that are not Mormons. You are not qualified to say what is or is not correct within the LDS church. I saw at least one answer that was proffered by someone who has been listening to a non Mormon spreading untruths.
2006-09-30 14:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly don't mean to make you mad but have you really looked into the beliefs of your chosen faith? LDS think Jesus was just a good man and any LDS member can become a god and have a world to their own. Do you believe this? Do you think Jesus was God only Son or just another good man? Think about it. I've lived around the LDS for many years and this is a fact that the senior members of your faith don't like to admit. This was declared by a past latter day saint over the church and therefor must be true according to your faith. Give it some thought. The LDS are a cult by all definitions of the word.
2006-09-30 14:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should leave him alone. You are just as accountable as he is for interfering with his mission. It's only a matter of time before his two years are up, and if the feelings are still there you can continue the relationship then. In the meantime, you can pray for yourself as well as him to be strong and to give you the strength to resist the urges to be together. He's doing the Lord's work now, and all his time and energy should be devoted to that.
2006-09-30 14:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by mtngrl7500 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can answer this question with a question. Are you sure this religion is the right one for you. There are thousands of religions out there. Do you think a true loving God would turn away millions of his children because they were in the "wrong" religion. Maybe you should explore your options and do some spiritual research and discovery. If you are sure and strict about this Church then you have to be willing to sacrifice. I say go for love , and follow the heart that God gave you.
2006-09-30 14:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by cricki7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tara i was once a Mormon and had a similar yet slightly different circumstance it was the bishops daughter and during church she tried to have me in the stairs behind the stage of the basket ball court i would bet your church is set up the same way the whole of the religion is vary rhetorical when i lived i phoenix they took us to Mexico they told us the hole way the rules when we got there the shaparons or what ever you want to call them were the first to brake all the rules everyone of them they told us not to drink cafine products till they bought into coca cola then it was alright there were many reasons to dought there book the bigest is the bible itself warns that there would be many that tryed to add too these books but dont beleave them in closing i do have to say they were good people and I cared for many of them and they helped me when I was down and I thank them for that but in truth I now wish they the whole at least most would realy help GOD if they were not in that religion but another no religion should have to goat the people they teach to pay tithing like the mormons do it is a love offering not a taxs on your soul as they like to say find a real religion not a cault of a mad man with delusions of Grandure good luck all mormons will need it when thay stand before GOD and have to explain how they can read it in the bible and then mook it in there book.
2006-09-30 15:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would do a few things. Try to talk to the mission president and see why he/she has a problem with this. Also you might want to talk to the person in charge of your church if it's not the same person as the mission president.
If you still get nowhere with this, and you still like the guy, I would look at what your religious denomination says about your situation if anything and go from there.
Good Luck with it all.
2006-09-30 14:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by akknaley 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a Bible Believing Christian. Let me ask you this ? If Jesus was in charge, what would he do,
You should honor your relationship.I don't know too much about the book of Mormons, I read it many years ago, but I do have a fare Grasp of the Bible and the curse that was placed on it Rev 22:18 nothing was to be added and certainly nothing placed above the Bible.
You and he have done nothing wrong according to the Christ, Marry him, don't be a fool.
2006-09-30 14:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you think that it is wrong to love someone. This seems a bit odd to me.
These people are way to controlling.
This is what life is like in their thought system.
Is this what you really want?
You can still have a great relationship with God without the control issues that religion creates.
Actually you can be a lot closer to God with out the interference that religion creates.
Try it.
Love and blessings
don
2006-09-30 14:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
His faith in the leadership of the mission president is stronger than his love for you. I can not understand how you would still be interested.
But then again I can't understand how either of you could give up your freedom: to become a member of or slave of another being.
Even if you call it god!
2006-09-30 14:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by baughwawn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Falling in love is not a sin.
Tara, do some research about the evidence that Joseph Smith created the Book of Mormon. It's pretty easy to see that Joseph Smith was a fraud.
Of course, even if you came to that conclusion, it does you no good if the guy you fell in love with doesn't also come to that conclusion.
2006-09-30 14:16:56 · answer #11 · answered by Jim L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋