Here's the thing. I broke up with my gf over a month ago, but we kept seeing each other. No borderlines crossed (except for the one I ask in my previos question last monday). But we kept holding hands from time to time and she kept on trying to hug me. At first, I thought she wanted us to get back together, so last night I talked to her and told her we should just be friends after she had told me there was no wish on her side to take me back as a bf again. I thought we had settled it and we were gonna be friends. But 30 mins later she sent me messages to my mobile saying she didn't want to see me again. She told me I had killed something inside, the only thing that was still alive. I feel terrible because of her reaction and the messages she sent. I haven't called her on anything today, and I don't know if I should... So, SHOULD I CALL HER????
2006-09-30 13:59:03 · 18 answers · asked by Horumaket 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes- definately call her. Break-ups are hard, no doubt. I'm going through the EXACT SAME THING with my boyfriend (i mean ex boyfriend..) You're so used to being together as a couple, that it just comes natural to hold hands and stuff. Knowing that you can't DOES kill a part of you inside.. me and Andrew just went to the movies today. (We broke up a week ago) And ended up cuddling and holding hands just because it was SO natural and so hard at the same time. Tell her that even though you guys aren't a couple anymore, that you will still always be there for her. That you will still be her best friend. It may be hard for her to see you.. even though you didn't intentionally mean to hurt each other, it hurts just knowing what you had together and then looking the one you love in the eye and knowing you can't have that anymore. Call her and have a talk. Still hug her and stuff (watch the boundaries though) And tell her how much you still do care about her, and that you guys will get through this. Even if you do come out only as friends, tell her that you'll be best friends..
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2006-09-30 14:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I would say both of your are insecure about letting go completely. People who break up and are uncertain about splitting always try to maintain a "Friendship" right away just to hang on to that thread of hope.The real thing to do right now is to maintain a respectful association. A friendship has expectations and demands. It's too soon after the split. It takes two to make a relationship, she has your number - let her call you. Also, people have a tendency to say and do drastic things simply to see the reaction of their lover - somewhat like testing to see how their partner "Really Feels" - very immature. Take a break. Write some letters to her expressing all of your feelings and your observations of the past with her - but do not give them to her. Put them away in a safe place - a couple of weeks later take the letters out and read them. You will have a new perspective on things and quite possibly see why you two were attracted initially.These letters can show you where you two went wrong and if your feelings are sexual,realistic etc... Writing therapy can put your feelings in check - BUT - DO NOT GIVE NOR LET HER READ THE LETTERS!
Good Luck!
2006-09-30 21:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Erik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Now ask me why.
If you broke up with her why did you continue to drag her along like that? No wonder she's upset with you and she wouldn't be huggin you and holding hands with you - after you've told her no - unless she did want you back. You're toying with her heart and her mind and quite frankly.. she deserves better.
Two choices.
1. Decide to be a responsible man - then call her and clean up the entire mess you've made.
2. Decide to be a responsible man - and leave her alone because you don't care about her. If you did you would take better care of her heart and her feelings.
2006-09-30 21:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard cold turkey is the only way. Do Not Call. Try to remember why you broke up with her. I have broken up with my previous GF about 3 times. When you are broken up, the mind seems to only remember the great times. You start to think that it wasn't that bad. It is that bad. Stay away.
2006-09-30 21:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by JoeClyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUst call her and see how she feels and ask her what went wrong. Why she sent you those messages. You should try to be friends with her again.
2006-09-30 21:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by prettyn'stylin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think that you should give her some space. Girls always need time to think. So give her about 3 days, then call her. Tell her why you broke up with her and give a good reason and explain. She will understand
2006-09-30 21:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kiana A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her You want to be her friend and not her enemies well give her her paces to give her 2 day and call her but only call her if you love her and say to her that it was your fall women always want to win in all the Battle.
2006-09-30 21:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Culebro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no move on this is cat and mouse why did u beak up? know this thing will never be the same get over by get a new Friend fast
2006-09-30 21:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her just to straiten things out;like if u c eachother r u can keep walking or say hey.
2006-09-30 21:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by PinkLove6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should! I am going to be honest with you. She wants you to call so that she can yell at you. Then when she gets all that anger out she will start to feel better. Then tommrow tell her how much you care about her and all will be well. :)
2006-09-30 21:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by angie_adie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋