hey. so I have two different sized breasts an "a" and a "c" cup ... and my past two boyfriends have broke up with me over this. The last on said it was because "i didn't tell him sooner." are all guys like this or are they okay accepting you for you? I didn't choose for this to happen and i don't have the finances for an implant at the moment especially trying to make college tuition. is this how all guys feel or have i just been lucky enough to find the ones that do?
2006-09-30 13:39:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Sometimes this is covered under your insurance. If you can go to the doctor and have them write to your insurance company and explain that this is causing you psychological problems, this can be a covered benefit. Fight for it. I worked as a second levels appeals nurse for an HMO and you'd be surprised what is a covered benefit if you fight enough for it. Other than that, no, not all guys will see this as a negative and don't let them think that there is something wrong with you because you simply are unique. If a guy will break up with you for that.....imagine if you were married down the road and God forbid end up with breast cancer and had to have one removed....would he be there then? There are still great men out there that will love you no matter what size you are. Hang in there sweety. Don't let them get you down. Also, if you need help fighting the insurance company, email me and and I will be happy to help you.
2006-09-30 13:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*hugs*
Poor girl
Stop dating jerks. You are perfect. If these idiots are not wise enough to see that, you are better off without them.
You need friends - good ones. People who will nurture and love you and who will care for you and let you grow.
Boys aren't really good at that, generally. You will find a boy who can love you and nurture you. It will take time, and you may have to go through pain to do so, but if you find this boy then the pain will be worth it.
For now, cry some tears - write some poetry or music - call your friends - don't eat too much icecream or chocolate, just enough to get your serotonin levels and endorphins back to normal.
*comforts*
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incidentally, once you get used to the whole thing and realize what jerks guys are, you might find it easier to bring this sort of thing up really early on. That way they either run for the hills or stick around. You have an easy way to sift out the jerks from the more thoughtful and caring ones and you haven't invested so much time or emotional work.
For me, I am Chinese. I have 3 kids from a previous relationship. For some STUPID reason I seem to be attracted to white Australian girls, many of whom see the above and run screaming (or at least have the decency to declare "Friend Friend Friend!" before anything gets anywhere). But it is out there and visible and the ones who run away quick are easily eliminated from my life. It's a bit easier for me, though. Girls are more nurturing.
2006-09-30 20:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
These men/boys are not worth your time. I would not worry about telling someone sooner. Just when you feel right. I am sorry this has happened to you. There are many guys who will accept you for you. You just haven't found one yet.
Don't worry about implants either. If, one day you marry and decide to have kids, that will effect your ability to breastfeed your baby.
2006-09-30 20:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is a deal breaker, you are with the wrong guys. Just remember that you only need 1. We are only compatible with 3 out of 100 people in the world. You just hit two of the 97.
2006-09-30 20:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by Chainsaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife had to have a mastectomy, which obviously devistated both of us. When she finally woke after the anesthetic, she cried. I said Whats the matter? Let's go home and get things better. We'll make love or I'll find a hooker!!!. The point being, the woman counts,,,, not he body
2006-09-30 20:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie. if a boy has to break up with you over your breasts, than obviously he has a vanity issue himself. you are beautiful, and you should not have to explain to a boy what your body looks like before he actually sees it. honey, you are one of a kind and you will find someone oneday who will love you for you and not your boobs. and, no...not all men are like that. those two are simply idiots. concentrate on your schooling, be somebody, and eventually you will be able to take care of your appearence for YOU, and not for anyone else.
2006-09-30 20:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a man no all men R not like dat my wife has two verry different size breast and I love her dearly always have but somguys are breast guys and it makes a world of difference to them but if they can't except wat dey have den dey really don't love u for u dey must love u for your breast u don't need men like dat really so to h**L wid dem
2006-09-30 20:50:06 · answer #7 · answered by Real Chilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will find a guy the other two guys must have not been with any one before
every ones breast one bigger than the other.
that's just how it is .
2006-09-30 21:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They did you a favor. don't let something like that get you down. you will meet the right guy and the difference won't matter. good luck.
2006-09-30 21:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both very shallow. I can't imagine someone who cares for you would break up over this. Perhaps they're too cowardly to tell you that it's THEM, and not YOU.
2006-09-30 20:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Katyana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋