We just moved back to the US after living in England for 4 years. We moved to a small town and my son is having a hard time fitting in. Does anybody have suggestions? He had so many friends at his old school, but now it seems to be a struggle for him to make a good friend.
2006-09-30 13:37:03 · 14 answers · asked by NattyO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well no when i was that age not many people liked me but when i got older i got more friends so just wait and chill.
2006-09-30 13:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Suzzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to "fit in," in a small town. Most of the families have been there since birth. Most small towns do not easily welcome newcomers. Try to get your son involved in community activities, is there a Boy Scout Troop he can join? Little league or soccer?
Unless you help your son, he will always feel uncomfortable. It's up to you to help him assimilate. Don't be surprised, if it doesn't happen, that's life in a small town. It may take years, unfortunately your son will not understand why can't make friends. Also, if you have not introduced yourself to his teacher, do so, immediately and tell the teacher about your son not making friends, maybe the teacher can advise you on how to handle the situation. Do it soon before your son becomes withdrawn and not want to go to school. Maybe you can have a party and invite all of the neighbors and their kids to your house, to meet you, your son and your other family members.
At his age, he needs your support, don't let him down. He probably feels alone and frightened, as well as, missing his friends in England.
Good luck.
2006-09-30 13:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that he's having a rough time making friends. He's still the new kid! Get to know some parents either from his school or around the town and such.. and then maybe you can schedule a play date. Some one on one time with a child his age should be helpful. Make sure you have a snack for them, maybe some videos or legos and such.. things to keep them occupied and to keep them having a good time together.
Best of luck!
2006-09-30 14:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon on a Saturday or Sunday let him invite 4 or maybe 5 little boys from school over to have a fun day, let them play games or take them to the park, or just let them play games they want to play, then maybe in a week or so let him pick a couple of little boys to come play again, before long their parents will start to have him over and they will become friends at school.
2006-09-30 13:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say that let your son develop his own peers and learn how to communicate with people his own age. He will find friends that he is comfortable with eventually. It would be illogical for him to forcibly be friends with people who have no common interests as he does. Your relationship with him as a parent should stay between parent and son. However, do let him know that if he needs to talk, you are there to listen. Or have him talk to cousins near his age.
There might be a cultural difference between England and US (actually, i know so lol) and as your son becomes accustom to american cultural, he'll fit in more easily.
2006-09-30 13:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worrying now!
It's so hard, and I went through this myself. Believe me, when he's 17 you will be lucky if he tells you where he's going, and who he's going with.
Be more concerned with others' over-reactions, or thoughtless comments. Boys that aren't aggressive are labled "shy," rather than introspective or thoughtful.
It's amazing that the stereotype is the wild boy having problems learning, jumping on everybody and causing trouble in the classroom. Then when teachers encounter something different, they perceive a "problem."
It will work out!
2006-09-30 13:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by rideitmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you did say you just moved back to the U.S. Let him adjust to the new school. He probably misses his friends in england. All you need to do is give it some time and sooner or later, he will be making friends.
2006-09-30 15:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him aht he is interested in and then sign him up for a sport or club he likes. Meet some people with children his age and try to set up some paly dates. Talk to his teacher at school, and see if they can facilliate some connections with children in his class for him.
2006-09-30 14:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is trying to get used to the new changes in his life and eventually he will feel that it's time to make new friends and move on.
2006-09-30 13:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by ♠Steffy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋