I am with my boyfriend almost 1 month and we are getting really close and these days he starts to touch my intimate parts, you know something like petting.I am wondering if I should let him, isn't it too early or he can do that because we are in relationship?Tell me your opinions!
2006-09-30 13:25:08 · 24 answers · asked by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in high school
2006-09-30 13:27:54 · update #1
How old are you? It's best to get to know someone before you begin touching. Once you start, that becomes the focus of your relationship. It's better to wait and develop real feelings of affection which may lead to a relationship. Otherwise, your relationship is built on sex, which is a weak foundation without much lasting power.
2006-09-30 13:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow. It is most certainly NOT "all fun and games". Being intimate with someone is very serious and has life long consequences. One month isn't enough time to tell if anyone is serious let alone to trust something so precious with. Case in point. I dated a guy for over a year and a year into it found out every single thing I knew about him was an utter and total LIE. Can you imagine giving yourself to someone like that? How violated you would feel? You can't trust people anymore and you can't trust your hormones. ONE MONTH is a joke. ONE MONTH is not enough time to gather if this person is honorable or not and as a 30 year old women who probably sounds like your mom right now
God Bless.
PS.
I highly encourage you to discuss this matter with an adult.
2006-09-30 13:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by skevans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think a month is too short then you are right. If you don't feel comfortable with him touching you yet, you are right. If you want to establish boundaries for your own relationship and not do things because everyone else is then, you have that right. Sweetie, groom and trust your own judgement the day may come when it can get you out of some serious trouble. Take a stand.
-:) All the best.
2006-09-30 13:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by dream_angel_come_true 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...The private parts should be touched when the couple have come to an agreement that those intimate parts should play a role in their relationship, If you think it is right for you then go for it but if you are not comfortable than tell him that you are not comfortable and let him know when it is the right time for that sort of intimate touching, Blue
2006-09-30 19:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by E.F. Landeros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything til you're 18!!!! LEGAL! If your parents found out, he could be charged with rape no matter what you say. Just date and have fun. You're too young for that part of a relationship. You can't handle the emotional part of it. WAIT!!!! I speak from experience! I had a baby when I was 15 & it started with just a little bit of touching & that ends up doing more because I loved him & didn't want him to leave me if I said no. It's NOT WORTH IT!
2006-09-30 13:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by starsabuv27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put a time frame on things dealing with intimacy. If you want and feel comfortable with him touching you then let him but if it makes you feel uncomfortable then let him know. Also just because he has the title of boyfriend that doesn't give him the right to touch you either.
2006-09-30 13:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this question and you say "isn't it too early", I assume you are not ready for this and his actions are making you uncomfortable. If that's the case, then you need to discuss this with him. It's your body and if you're not ready, you need to make that clear to him! Don't worry about what anyone is going to think of you! No one has any right touch you just because "you're in a relationship"! If he is a jerk about it, then trust me, you don't need him!!
2006-09-30 13:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by hearts'n'flowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only have sex with him if you are in love with him, and you know for a fact that he is in love with you, and if you are probably going to spend the rest of your life with him. I suggest that you don't have sex with him. You two can give each other pleasure in other ways(like touching, kissing,etc.)because sex is dangerous. You could get pregnant, or even get a deadly disease.If you do end up having sex, use a condom and talk to your doctor about taking birth control pills.
2006-09-30 13:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by osembob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously do not feel comfortable with this or you wouldn't be asking if it is ok. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him you would like him to slow down a little bit. If he really likes you, that will not be a problem. Take Care.
2006-09-30 13:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that, that depends on your view of not only the relationship but where you would like it to go. Do you feel like it's going to lead to something that you you're not ready for. Or are you just ok with the petting and just want it to stay a that level. I feel like this if you're ready for it go ahead but alway protect yourself.
2006-09-30 13:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by volcano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋