we hve been engaged for 1 year and know it is time to talk about the planning and now he doesnt want to talk about it "untill we get a house" is this a good thing or a bad thing?
2006-09-30 12:25:19 · 23 answers · asked by kelly c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sounds like a stall tactic! So are you actively looking for a house? Some guys will get engaged to appease the woman even though they really aren't ready to get married. They don't want to get married, but they don't want to lose you, either, so this is a way for them to prolong dating...I think a conversation is in order.
2006-09-30 12:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for any other man, but I personally would be very cautious about buying a house with someone I am not married to! Tell him if he wants to buy a house go ahead. If you want to plan a wedding go ahead. If he isn't interested then you all have something to figure out.
I have been married for 25 years, I am not sure if today I agree with all the hoopla that goes into the "wedding". It all seems like a "look at how much I can spend" thing these days.
Collect some close friends and a minister and get it done.
2006-09-30 22:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a date set? If so, and he still doesn't want to talk about it, then you may have a problem.
If there is no date yet, perhaps he just does want a house first. But is he working on getting the house? Have you seen a realtor, discussed the plans for the house? If there are no actual wheels in motion, I'd be concerned.
You do need to talk about your feelings regardless. Hopefully all will be resolved.
Good Luck!
2006-09-30 19:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wants to be sure about what finances will be available to plan the wedding before you start. I don't think it is a bad thing, but if you can't talk to him about it, and let him know how insecure you are, maybe you shouldn't get married. Sit down with him and set some goals, and go from there.
2006-09-30 19:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Keri B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its not a good thing or bad thing maybe he is just scared to take to next step or he maybe just wants you guys to have a house before you get married so you guys can have a home to go to after the wedding because right now buying a house is a very hard thing to do since the prices are flying up
2006-09-30 19:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound good - he's delaying for some reason. Wait until the two of you are married before you get a house. You need to talk to him and see where his head is at. Make sure he's not stringing you along....
2006-10-01 06:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad thing, normally men and women want to do the wedding before the house. If you haven't started planning the wedding by now it isn't going to happen. I am sorry, keep the ring and go to a houck shop.
2006-09-30 19:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by samanny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least he is responsible! Explain planning a wedding can take 6mos or longer if he still refuses to talk about it ask what the real problem is!
2006-09-30 19:30:06 · answer #8 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a bad thing if he plans on keeping your name off the tittle to the home especially if you help pay for it and have children!
2006-09-30 19:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalling will only make the relationship stressed. Take time to talk about things in depth and reevaluate your options.
2006-10-01 10:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by dazee052 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋