Ok I'm in a long distance relationship and we only hook up during winter break, spring break, and summer. So yeah she tells me that this winter her and her family are going to mexico so we might not see each other then. I was like ok then we will hook up during the summer and last night she was all like oh yeah i cant wait to be with you again babe summer it is. So today she tells me shes got a great shot at training with some good pros for her riding so that means I wont see her in the summer either. So I told her I dont see a point in us being together anymore and that she should date someone there, and now shes mad at me. Was I being selfish? Did I do the right thing? What should I do?
2006-09-30 12:25:12 · 17 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you break it up, tell her how you feel - that you are not spending enough time with ter.
See if you both can work out a collaborative solution in the relatiohship that meets both your current needs.
2006-09-30 12:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did the right thing to me. Relationships are hard, much less long distance ones. Time and distance are huge factors, and if you can't see each other on break, then when? I'm not saying its easy, but it looks like for now maybe its time to take a break. Who knows, if it was meant to be down the road after school and everything, maybe you guys will hook back up and actually have time to let the relationship grow? You can always just make a commitment to each other now, and not see each other to do other things, but usually in the long run it will catch up to you and ruin what you have. Good luck.
2006-09-30 12:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by chris w james 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way I understand you and her both. I mean I guess it just depends on how much you "like" her, b/c if you really do then in my opinion you both could make it work. But on the other hand, long distance relationships are very hard, but you also shouldn't expect her to just cancel plans with her family or cancel training or any other thing like that. So if you really want to quit the relationship, I think you both should have a long talk and see where each of you stand.
2006-09-30 12:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by reaganaiken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to both really think about how important this long term relationship is. Ask yourself if you would love her any less a year from now than you do today. If you think no, it wouldn't be any different, then you should be able to wait to see her again. If you're thinking that you can't wait for her to return, then really, why are you wasting your time together?
2006-09-30 12:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by johnsredgloves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with her, because I'm not really into the whole long distance relationship thing. I like to see my b/f every day, hold him, and be with him. But then again. Good things come to those who wait!!!
2006-09-30 12:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by TayNuz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distant relationships can be very hard, i don't think its fair to you to be waiting for her if she's not interested in seeing you, if i was in her position i'd take every opportunity i get to see my boyfriend, the situation screams foul play, my advise is you've done the right thing if there's no interest now don't stand around expecting it to come later. Move on.
2006-09-30 12:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You jerk! Let her be ambitous and live her life instead of having her just be a booty call. There's not much of a thing as a long distance girlfriend because of that. You're way too selfish, why don't you do something with your life too? How are you a guy who has had enough? Let her be free, instead of a cage that's thousands of miles away.
2006-09-30 12:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 06:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by freudenburg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy then you made the right decision. Long distance relationships are hard. I don't think it was selfish. I think you were being honest and open.
2006-09-30 12:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by doc_is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it seems, long distance relationships tend to never work.... You think it will but it doesnt. I would look for someone back where you live, it will be easier on both of you.
2006-09-30 12:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋