On Friday September 29, 2006 I gave this boy I like a letter telling him that i like him. This guy is shy so i didnt think he would want to talk about it in school, so since we get on the same school bus i thought he might want to talk about it there. When we got on the school bus nothing happened, he acted like it was a regular day. I really dont even know if he read it on not.
Well, my questions are:
Should i ask him about the letter?
Should i Wait?
Is it a big probability that he did not read the letter?
*the reason i am so confused about this because he likes me so why is it so hard for him to talk to me
Oh and by the way i am in the 10th grade and the guy is too, so you wont think i am like some 12 y.o w/ a crush on a 19 y.o.
2006-09-30 12:18:18 · 9 answers · asked by Re-Re 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I gave it to him in his hand in the morning after we got off the school bus
2006-09-30 12:32:52 · update #1
There are a couple of reasons he may not have said anythig on the bus or at school.
REASON #1. Just as you stated he is shy, even the guys who seem to be very outgoing can get very shy in a situation like this, however he's not "SHY" about other people knowing. What makes him "SHY" is YOU. sounds weird??? Basically, you blew his mind and he doesnt know what to say or do with this info, and he doesnt want to risk blowing it, or screwing it up!
REASON#2. He doesnt want to apear TOO eager. You know like, he doesnt want to let you know how excited he is, "play it cool". This is especially true if he is inexperienced with females, or if (and he probably did) told some of his friends or let them know you wrote him a letter. This will reinforce his "gut" feeling to try and "play it cool". Somtimes this "gut" feeling will work aginst a guy, and he will avoid his potential female friend until she gets pissed and it's too late.
In either of these two cases, your best bet is to try and bring it up yourself, but not when you or him will be around any other people. If he's shy it will cause him to freak ( as in sweat, shakey voice, and/or try to avoid you due to the immense build up of pressure) because you put him on the spot.
If he's just trying to not seem soo eager, or play it cool, the same approach would be the best.
Try to talk to him when the two of you are nowhere near either of your friends. When you talk to him, try to make physical "NOT SEXUAL!" but physical contact, like hold his hand or at the very least try to stand or sit CLOSE, and faceing. Closing the uncomfortable "air" between you two will cause him to focus less on himself and how nervous or excited he is, and more on you. Don't force eye contact with him, It will make him uncomfortabel. If he makes it then he is feeling confident, if he doesnt then he is in a "defensive" mode and forceing eye contact can make him focus, again, more on himself and his insecurities. So dont force any eye contact but remember to close the gap of air and try to touch his hand or arm and tell hi you "like him"!
If he's interested, and he more then likely is, this will work magic...
2006-09-30 12:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how did you give him the letter? Did you drop it in his locker or give it to him straight out or what?
Anyways, if he has read the letter, I think that maybe you should try approaching him. If he's a shy guy, don't talk about the letter at first, just act like its a normal conversation. Maybe you'll get info on the letter like that.
2006-09-30 12:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kiera S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody recently asked a question similar to this and was wondering why the guy ignored her. I'll tell you the same thing I told her. Letters like that scare the hell out of guys. My suggestion is that you walk up to him and say "Well, wasn't that a silly letter?" That might get you past the barrier.
2006-09-30 12:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very shy, so I would ask him if he got the letter and read it. Then tell him to call on a certain day and time to talk more!!!
2006-09-30 12:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally just walk up to him one day when he's by himself and ask him nicely about the letter, try not to sound desperate and needed just tell him you want to know if he's interested or not. Shy guys can be complicated at times, you never know what they really want, the best way to get answers is to ask questions, besides if he says no he doesn't want you, who'd know, he doesn't talk much so i bet no one would hear it. so my suggestion is ask him about it.
2006-09-30 12:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he is shy. he probably read your letter but is having a difficult time thinking how to react or respond. it was only yesterday you gave him your letter ., give him time, be patient. don't be pushy . if he doesn't respond in a few days you can either ask him if he read your letter or wait till he approaches you about it. if he doesn't then he is too shy or afraid ..
2006-09-30 12:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id wait you dont wanna pressure him into automatically saying something about it
2006-09-30 12:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ask him maybe he is to shy to approach you and tell you or maybe JUST MAYBE he didnt read it but its not likley so ask him
2006-09-30 12:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
you'll sound desperate if you pressure him
give him time
2006-09-30 12:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by yoshispeedwayusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋