I want to get more relationships instead of just always hookups, it seems like the girls will always have sex with me and that stuff but it never goes any farther than that. How can i actually start dating, Why am i only the hookup guy, and not the boyfriend guy?
2006-09-30 12:16:42 · 9 answers · asked by quickseal7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Endie v.Instead of giving off the vibe that sex is what you want,you could start talking and see how things go from there.It's what impression you make.If you make the impression that sex is all you're looking for and nothing more,than the woman won't even try to go any further-in fear that you may not want to go any further.
2006-09-30 12:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I've got an idea...stop having sex with them. If you want a relationship with someone, you need to TALK to them. Find out what their hobbies are, have they traveled, what do they like to do, where do they work...if you really want something to go farther than a "hookup" you've got to make an effort to not view the person as simply another "hookup", but as a potential date.
2006-09-30 12:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm maybe that is how you start it off.. Why don't you start trying to build a solid friendship without sex..
Learn a woman.. learn how she smells, what she enjoy, sometimes it the simple things you have to change how you go about is how you make friendships,, it can be for the moment or it can be for a long term but .. you can't expect them to be a true friend if you can't give it in return. Introduce yourself as a man you would want to get to know on a whole other level.. Let the woman see what you have to offer other than sex.. You can date without sex.. just try the simple things and see how that goes. How you start it is how your going to end it.
2006-09-30 13:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the "Hook Up Guy" because hooking up is about quick sex, not about getting to know anyone. Yeah, you get girl but you don't KEEP her. You hook up, do the body mambo and it's over. Where do you really expect things to go from there? Why would you want a realtionship with someone who gives it up so easily, and why would they take you seriously? You're not the Boyfriend Guy because you don't act like one.
If you are serious about wanting a real, grown-up relationship then you have to give up the hook-ups. People in relationships want to be respected, understood, loved and treated well. They want honesty and (I hope) fidelity. There's nothing about hooking up with someone that lends itself to any of the above. You probably may want to think about the difference between "hooking up" and "making love." Look at yourself seriously, then ask yourself what it is about you that makes you boyfriend material. If you have friends and family whose opinions you trust and value, ask them to be candid and tell you what they see.
When I was single, "hooking up" was called a "booty call." It boils down to being a completely unsatisfying sexual encounter for the purpose of physical contact. There's too much emphasis on sex today. Don't get me wrong, I love it as much as the next person, but there's no loving like what you get with someone is totally into you. Raise the standards for yourself and for the company you keep. Otherwise, you'll continue to have one booty call after another and live a very lonely life.
2006-09-30 12:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the way you present yourself, if you act like a hookup guy then that's all you will be. Instead of jumping in the sack get to know her, show her some respect. Women know that hookups don't respect them and they don't respect you.
you have to prove to yourself and women that you aren't just after sex. You can't build a relationship on sex.
When you meet someone that you are interested in wait to have sex and show her that you are interested in more than the sack.
2006-09-30 12:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by freaking_airhead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if your don't have sex with a girl to soon and just date you will get to know each other and then it can turn into a relationship. When you do find a girl that you are really interested in, respect her and don't have sex. If she is persistent in wanting sex with you then she isn't the one for you. I'm sure there are decent girls out there that would want you for you and not just sex. Take your time and just date first no sex. I guarantee you that you will find that true girl and have a great relationship with her.
2006-09-30 12:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you can usually get which ever one you want.......
No offend, but:
Are you the kind of guy that knows exactly what to say to get into a girl's pants??? You know how to get her attention and you know how to flatter her and how to make her feel good??? Is that why you usually get whichever one you want?
See, if sex is what you're good at, sex is what you get.............
To get into a girls heart (become her boyfriend), you need to start from a different point. Like trying to find out if you share hobbies or opinions or funny bad habbits........ find out who this girl realy is, and show her who you really are......
Scary eh? But that is what it takes..........
2006-09-30 12:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Endie vB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that boat for years, eventually some person that you have relations with, will want more then you can date and get married, and then ask for advice on a subject of Yahoo answers....
2006-09-30 12:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey stop complaining most man don't get that far!.
2006-09-30 12:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by I'm crazy 4 God 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋