Hey guys,so i decided not to have sex until i get married.i havent done anything besides hugging and kissing.for my 18th birthday my bf wants to go down on me.i want to allow him to fo it but im not sure if i should.my question is,is havin oral ex done on u a sin and will i still be considered a virgin if i do this..plz add additional comments...thanks guys
2006-09-30 11:25:39 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should stick to your promise you made to yourself, and DON'T find loopholes. If he's worth your time, he will understand and wait along with you. Don't do it. You'll regret it, 18 is too young, and this is also a test on the guy. Who knows, maybe he is the one you will be marrying? Save yourself for your true love on your wedding night, if that is what you think is right. How can you love and be trusted by others if you can't keep a promise to yourself? Good luck and God bless, if I may say so, I agree with your first choice. But everyone is different, and that is another life lesson!
2006-09-30 11:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by ~S~ is for Stephanie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a life and death question? Can tell you are still very young. No, having oral sex will not lose your virginity....that is whole idea of being a virgin...no intercourse...and since oral sex is not intercourse then you would still be technically a virgin. As far as if it is a sin....I would say no but it really matters on what you feel. Here is an after thought for you, if he performs oral sex on you is he expecting the same in return from you? Probably should ask before hand....
2006-09-30 18:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by ndmagicman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a sin and you will not be considered a virgin, but even if it doesnt matter for you if it a sin or not that will still mess up the fact that you want to wait till you get married think about it why do we always wear white on the wedding day because white means sexual untouched and innocent i think after you do that you wont be a virgin whether it oral or the other way same thing
2006-09-30 18:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what is your final goal? you may ask for it? That will clearer,will emerge slowly but surely,much as the rough draft turns into a sketch,and the sketch into a painting through the serious work done on it.Do you like to paint yourself as a virgin if you do so with your b/f?If you are going to school/college is for what?- just to learn something is that right.So what if you like to learn about it and admire it,nothing wrong or a sin it's a kind of learning a subject.
2006-09-30 18:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha ha ha ha, life and death. Okay. Serious advice? You have definitely come to the wrong source. The only answers you will get here are either pervs trying to hear about your pussie, or religious zealots trying to make up for their own past indiscretions by "counseling" you to not do something that they already did. So take your pick, either advice from perverts or hypocrites and liars. You would be best to discuss this with some one you know and trust.
2006-09-30 18:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tiffinie J,
One of the great possible attributes of a strong happy marriage is the physical one-ness that can be achieved by a life-long committment with your husband. To the extent that you have physical or mental sexual activity with other men your ability to achieve the highest possible one-ness with your husband will be compromised.
Do you want to sacrifice your future possiblities within marriage at this point?
You need to trust God who created you to know what is best for you. He only wants your ultimate happiness. Sex outside of marriage is adultry and adultry is one of the 10 commandments. If we love God we will not knowingly break His commandments even in our thoughts and He will help you to be strong if you ask Him to and trust Him to. God's way is best.
2006-09-30 18:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1) yes, it is a sin. You could go ahead and do it, and ask God for forgiveness afterwards. God will forgive you, if you are truly repentant.
(2) You would still physically and technically be a virgin, but spiritually you would not be a virgin because you have been sexually intimate, and have had a form of "sexual intercourse" with a male.
(3) This situation would open the door for him to quickly enter you with his penis... opening the door to possible rape, impregnation, sexually transmitted diseases.
2006-09-30 18:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by JustPeachy !!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it is a sin... and the Bible speaks about sex being for married men and women... Christ forgives an honest and earnest heart. If you're writing yahoo.com for advice, I think that it is pretty clear that you are conflicted and don't want to do it really. If he loves you he understands your faith and your dilemma. Maybe he's not able to love you as maturely as you need him too. God Bless.
2006-09-30 18:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by phdamy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already lusted in your heart and need to ask God's foregiveness!!!!
It doesn't sound like you are truly right with the Lord or that you even want to be.
Who do you love more...your high school bf who will be a distant memory to you in 10 years....or the Lord who will be there for you for all Eternity if only you will stop being such a lustful sinner and start living right?
2006-09-30 18:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter, because after he goes down on you you're gonna feel so good he'll be able to talk you into the real deal. If you're foreal about remaining a virgin until marriage, don't even tempt yourself by getting into any type of sexual situation.
2006-09-30 18:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by not2nite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋