This is to my question about "signs" my boyfriend is cheating!! We live together and he works 6am to 6:30 pm and he comes home from work eats dinner then goes to bed!! NOW......
On the weekends......
He comes home from work on Friday we go out to eat then he leaves....Sometimes he dont come home at all...Or if he attempts then he cant get in cause i lock him out.....Like this weekend for example..Last night he came home from work, we went out for dinner, he dropped me off at home, then left he came back a couple hour later (surprised), today he got up and left while i was sleeping he came back around 10:30am then left again.....as of now i have no clue where he is!! Ive never caught him doing anything before....But i just cant shake this feeling!!
ps when he is gone all weekend he tells me he is getting drunk with friends
What does all of this sound like to you??
2006-09-30 10:34:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless of what he's doing, you don't sound very happy. Do you really want to be in a long relationship of just feeding this guy when he feels like coming over?
Even if he's just tired from work, can you put up with a guy who puts work before you?
2006-09-30 11:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by scarface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make clear to him that his behavior is unacceptable to you.
A little time away from each other to decompress and follow each others' own (nonsexual) pursuits is a good thing in any relationship, but staying out all night is not. Let him know that this is very hurtfull to you and if he does it again dump him and find a man who listens to you, cares about your feelings, and engenders trust rather than doubt. His behaviour does not necessarily mean that he is cheating on you, but does raise doubts. The more alarming thing is his lack of concern for your feelings.
2006-09-30 17:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Atticus Flinch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOney if he aint getting it from you he is getting it somewhere. Any man who won't tell you where he is at is hiding something. You need to do some investigative work. While he is sleeping go through his car...check his cell phone...check through his pants and wallet. You may not catch him right off but after a while they get sloppy. THis is how I caught my ex-boyfriend . I got my friend to wait in her car across the street on evenings I thought he was sure to leave. When he left ...she tailed him. Calling me from her cell phone to tell me where he was going. Once I caught up with him he was in one fo my best friends arms. Get smart. Even if he isn't cheating is he giving you the attention you deserve ...doesnt sound like it. Maybe you need to make some tough decisions. I know it is hard but you have to tell yourself what you are worth. YOu treat people how to treat you.
2006-09-30 17:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that he is cheating, but he has become complacent. He is taking you for granted...like he knows no matter what he does you will still be there. You need to take control of your relationship and talk to him about the way he is treating you, and if he doesn't change...you have to think about your own happiness. You are responsible for your own emotional well being...no one else.
Also, please keep in mind some of the maturity level of alot of people in this forum. You know your relationship better than they do.
2006-09-30 17:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Alex B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like drinking and sleeping to me.
2006-09-30 17:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not happy and ned to get on with looking else where. This is not how you want to keep on is it?
2006-09-30 17:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is drinking with his friends and you need more trust in your relationship.
2006-09-30 17:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by QuestionMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very naive.
2006-09-30 17:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you dont tuck him right... give it up and get to the gym.
2006-09-30 17:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by stratis c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably he needs some space..guys need it from time to time..he'll be the same again..and if not..then there is somethin wrong..
2006-09-30 17:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by marked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋