I am 19 female and live with my parents. My older sis (25) and her husband (27) were visiting. My parents went out and so did sis and hubby. Sis and hubby came back home and I didn't know it. I was in my room umm 'pleasing myself' when my bro-in-law came upstairs. My door was open a bit and he saw me. I don't know how long he was watching me! I was so embarassed. I can't look at him now without turning red. I think I had my door closed but I'm not sure. Should I tell my sis or talk to him?
2006-09-30 10:29:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh wow, what a hard question. I'd say if it was an accident, the door was open a bit and he just happened to see then let it go. I'm sure in that case he'd be embarssed.
IF the door was closed and he opened it or if he watched you for a while on purpose I'd talk with your sister about how creepy he is being. Has he done anything else like that? How has he acted towards you in the past? Does he hug you a little longer than he should? if so maybe something is going on.
In either event I'd ask daddy to put a lock on the door. Also if you think you need to tell someone can you talk to mommy about it?
2006-10-01 01:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by N3WJL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go Girlie. And now for your problem - I know of a similar situation with a cousin, and the way around it is to ignore it completely, after all if you didn't know he'd seen you, you 'd be none the wiser. Your bro in law won't mention it (he's probably just as embarassed ) and you won't mention it. Life goes on and no ones hurt. Little embarassing moments make life all the more interesting. Next time ensure the door is closed!
2006-09-30 10:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably as embarrassed as you. I would probably just let it go. Unless you have some real evidence that he was "spying" on you. Bringing this out at this point will probably just create bad blood between everybody. Next time, be sure your door is closed. My younger brother once walked in on my girl friend and me. Life goes on. I know you can't turn off emotional reactions like a light switch, but you really have nothing to be embarrassed about. I wish we as a society could get over the need to pretend that sexual satisfaction isn't part of our make up. You were just satisfying a natural, healthy urge in a safe and satisfying way.
2006-09-30 11:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question well that really depends on your sister. Now, I happen to be an older sister myself and I personally would appreciate my sisters being honest with me. But the real answer to this question is actually in the form of a question. Would telling your sister do more harm then good? Would telling your brother-in-law do more harm then good? If it would do more harm keep it to yourself. If anything creepy is going on with him it will come out in the end anyway. Does he know you saw him. If he does or you think he knows you saw him I would confront him. Telling him that my sister and her loyalty is more important to me then people knowing that I "please myself" when they aren't home or that creepy brother-in-laws stop by for a sneak peek. YUCK!!!
2006-09-30 10:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by AmandaLynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I wouldn't say a word to him or your sis. I'd act like it didn't happen. Your brother-in-law might not even know. Just keep thinking your door was close and move on.
2006-09-30 10:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say anything.... you can create a embarrassing situation between the three of you... just let it go... he will forget eventually....
let me tell you what happened to me.... when i was dating my husband... he invited me to his mother's birthday party... around 11pm... we say good night and went to his room.... I locked the door.. at least that's what i though... we started making out.... we were naked ready for action.. when suddenly his brother came in to the room..... he closed the door as soon as he realize what we were trying to do.... i was so embarrassed... but he never said anything... it's been almost 4 years and i think he already forgot it happened
2006-09-30 10:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by perinsesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it where it is, if it is, between the two fo you! I don't think "He'd" be the one telling her ,and if he doesn't say anything , how else is she going to know unless "you" tell her!If you don't say anything to him, he'll get the message that "you" don't want to talk about it, that it's over and done, it happened and thats it!Let it go, for all concerned! "If" he should talk or act funny around you and won't stop bothering you about it , I would just tell him to drop it or you will speak to your sister about it!If he's smart he'll forget about it too!Next time........CLOSE THE DOOR AND LOCK IT!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-30 11:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. Everyone does it, even those that lie about not doing it. Getting caught is embarrassing, but in the greater picture of life, it's no big thing. So he saw you; it was an accident.
2006-09-30 10:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely let it go... what you do is your business... IF someone walked in on you then THEY should be embarrassed NOT you !! Shame on him for not knocking !! I would make sure a lock is on my door immediately... EVERYONE has a right to their privacy, no matter what age !
2006-09-30 10:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your sis first ur relationship with her is more important then with her hubby
2006-09-30 10:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by v-ballgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋