She already has two small children and I do not have any children. I need advice?
2006-09-30 10:16:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Please don't encourage an abortion. She may think that she has more than she can already handle with two other children but there are other options such as adoption. I know there are many people who could care for a baby but can't have one of their own. I would adopt the child before I would suggest that you abort it! Please think this one through.
2006-09-30 10:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by eileen 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Even if you are not together, you are old enough to know how to make children. You have to accept responsibility for your actions. If she wants to keep the child, you must help support that child even if you are never together as a couple. If she does not want the child she should not have an abortion. It is not the baby's fault it was conceived, you both should put it up for adoption to a someone who wants a child, who could not have children of their own, who would love that child no matter what.
2006-09-30 10:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very anti abortion. It's a baby - it has a right to live.
Obviously an unexpected baby puts a lot of strain on everyone involved. But it is good that you are not the type to bail on your friend. The kid might very well be able to have the benefit of two great parents since you and the mother are such good friends. But I won't sugar-coat the situation - a baby is a big (wonderful) investment of time and money. But s/he is also a part of you.
Good luck!
And to PoisonEva above ... abortion should never be an "Easy" decision.
2006-09-30 10:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not commited to having a child with this person, you should tell her! but the abortion discision is hers to make.
So once the deed is done, you have lost the power because it is her body. You have rights too but talk to her and let her know how you are feeling.
I think when woman make decision to keep a baby and a male is not really into it then woman should not expect the earth!
2006-09-30 19:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by manikred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about some things... are YOU ready for a child? you guys could make the situation work. she's your best friend. you don't have to get together you just have to know that you are both capable of raising a child in a good environment. the above answer is right... get some counseling to know that your making decisions that aren't rash and that are cooperated well together. but because shes ur best friend you should be able to understand each other and work things out.
2006-09-30 10:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked about this with her, or are you simply trying to figure out where you stand before you have that discussion?
I doubt that she could handle killing a growing baby and then go home to see her other two babies.
She should keep the baby. If there is just no way that you can raise him or her, then give it up for adoption. There are hundreds of couples out there who'd love to have a baby to raise.
2006-09-30 17:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you and her whether or not you guts should keep the baby. Sit her down and talk to her, But just to let you now, I 'm 9 months pregnant by my best friend and we're still really close and he does everything for me without tsking to antoher level. Who knows maybe one day me and him will get together and maybe you and your bf might too. I think that you guys should keep the baby. Good luck!!!!!
2006-09-30 10:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yowks. That is a tough one. It really depends on your situation and your ability to care for the new baby and for the other children.
Get counseling & don't make any quick decisions that you could regret!
2006-09-30 10:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I DISAGREE WITH ABORTION. THE BABY SHOULD NOT HAVE TO SUFFER BECAUSE YOU TWO HAD SEX. DO NOT KILL THE BABY. SOMETIMES BEST FRIENDSHIPS CAN TURN INTO THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS. THIS IS SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT. THAT COULD BE THE ONLY CHILD YOU GET.
2006-09-30 10:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you murderer?? Do you want to have this unborn baby blood on yours hands? Have you ever seen pieces of little fetus after they riped it during abortion?Go to the chaplain right now so He can open your eyes and maybe even more.
2006-09-30 10:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by kinga310 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋