I just gave birth to my baby and was in the hospital for 5 days and none of my friends visited. What is wrong with people these days. I sent them all an email a week earlier telling them that I was going in for a c-section and they said oh great we'll visit blah blah blah. Should I say something?
2006-09-30 10:12:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If it were me I think my feelings would definitely be hurt. Sometimes you find out who your friends really are, especially when you start having kids. Out of all my friends before kids, I have one left. I even had one come right out and tell me she was pissed that I was having a baby and she wasn't. Me..I would be excited for my friends, but I guess that's just me. I would probably let them know my feelings were a little hurt that nobody called, showed up, nothing.
2006-09-30 10:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. I had my baby 10 months ago and the only people who came to the hospital was my mother and sisters. None of my friends or cousins came and i have a lot of family and so called friends. I wouldn't have really cared if it wasn't for the fact that they called and said they were coming. I know now who my real friends are now. I was so bored in that hospital looking at that dam t.v. But they maid sure they came to my house to see what the baby looked like. So don't even be upset about it that's just how people are these days, you just have to live with it.
2006-09-30 18:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by teeka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends were trying to be considerate. They wanted you to have a chance to rest while you had help at the hospital. They also wanted you to master breastfeeding, if you are doing that, before visiting. I was glad that only one of my friends came to the hospital....less germs, less activity, more rest and privacy.
My in laws on the other hand would come for HOURS when I could have been sleeping.
I am sorry you are frustrated with your friends. If you want to say something, do it kindly. When you see them, something like, isn't he/she precious. I am so glad you could come to visit now. I was a little disappointed that you didn't make it to the hospital. Something simple and now accusing like what is wrong with you.....
Good luck, and enjoy that new little lump of love!!
2006-09-30 17:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I HATE being the center of attention and didn't like having visitors when I had my baby. Heck, I don't even like to have people over to my home (yeah, I'm weird and that's a whole different issue :) ), but I'll admit that it meant a lot to me when my friends and mine and my husband's co-workers came to see our new baby it showed that they cared about this very important event in our life so I totally understand what you mean.
Don't get angry with your friends right away, maybe ask them WHY they didn't come visit because maybe they were trying to let you rest or give you privacy, but i think it would be ok if you let them know you were disappointed they didn't go.
Suggestion: "Why didn't you come visit us? I was so disappointed."
Have they called or even gone to visit you at home?
2006-09-30 17:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by mamabunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is totally up to. Some people might think that it was a time for your self and your closest family. They may have not realize that you wanted them to come to the hospital and see you. Don't take it to personally. If you are still wondering why none of them came to see you just ask and see what there reasons were.
2006-09-30 17:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no. Isn't there other MORE IMPORTANT THINGS right now to complain about?
Like how your incision hurts real bad, how the baby cries and poops all the time, how your husband/baby daddy doesnt lift one finger and how is sucks that you can't drive for a month but you're gonna anyway.....???
2006-09-30 17:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone is a lil bit of an attention seeker. yea it would be nice to have a few friends visit and it kinda hurts if they dont...but what would you say.. would you gripe them out and jus make a small issue something big?? its not worth it, maybe they jus want to give you a lil family time.
2006-09-30 17:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont say any thing they probably will come see you at home you will most likely be tired and sore give them a chance to visit yall at home and u being around baby bond first with newborn
2006-09-30 19:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably were thinking you needed the rest and didn't want them to intrude!
Definitely talk to them about why they said they would visit and didn't. That's just lame!
2006-09-30 19:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW THAT YOU ARE ANXIOUS FOR YOUR FRIENDS TO SEE THE NEW BABY. THEY MAY HAVE CAME TO THE NURSERY TO SEE THE BABY AND JUST DID NOT BOTHER YOU SO YOU CAN REST. SOMETIMES PEOPLE HAVE OTHER THINGS TO DO AND THEY JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW LONELY WE FEEL WHEN WE ARE IN THE HOSPITAL. NO ONE KNOWS UNTIL THEY ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION, BUT WE WOULD NOT DO OUR FRIENDS THAT WAY. WE WOULD BE THERE AT THAT HOSPITAL WAITING FOR THE BABY TO COME.
2006-09-30 18:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋