i have a 4 year old boy who has a heart condition so he had few operations and that interfered with the potty training so now he's fine and started going to nursery i'm trying to potty train him but nothing is working, he always has accedents and hides from me and he doesn't say he needs to go to toilet at all. i tried to the punish and rewording thing but nothing is working it's like he doesn't get it?
2006-09-30 10:09:44 · 20 answers · asked by *R* 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm really sorry to hear about your little boys heart condition :( my daughter would never use the potty, so I started putting her straight on the toilet - and it worked! It might not work for you but worth a try x
2006-09-30 10:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by sarah p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An older or physically confident child can skip the potty stage and use the loo from the start
Trainer nappies (disposable nappies that look and feel like pants) are useful for the in-between stage of being 'almost dry', and ideal for trips away from home
Dress your child in loose trousers or leggings that can be pulled down easily
Teach boys to use the potty sitting down at first. They can progress to standing up later on - ask dad to demonstrate!
Don't get cross! When accidents happen, stay calm and sympathetic. It's so easy for a toddler to forget about the potty and the loo. If the accidents are making you irritable, leave training for a week or two and go back to nappies. It's no big deal
Also I used a star chart for my boys when I potty trained them.. they were giving a star everytime they used the potty or toilet...when they achieved 10 stars they were rewarded with a treat..this was a fun way for them to learn .
Good luck!... J x
2006-09-30 10:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jens 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I looked up a few sights online and I came across this article. One thing I wanted to add is, your son has gone through a lot of stress in the last year. My son was doing the same thing when my husband went into the military. We moved 5 times in two years and I couldn't seem to get him potty trained. When we finally moved to a semi-permanent place, he decided that he wanted to do it. He is the most stubbord creature you have ever met and there was nothing I could do to "make" him be potty trained. I hope this helps.
Article:
My favorite subject............potty training! Sounds like you're ready to potty train. The question is, is your son ready?
There are quite a few signs that you could look for to determine if your child is ready to potty train. Check to see if he's giving you some clues.
For example:
Is he waking up dry from naps?
Does he seem annoyed when he's wet or dirty?
How about hiding behind some furniture while he's "doing his thing?"
These and other signs is his way of telling you that's HE IS READY. At this age, a child can deal well only with one major project at a time. Potty training is MAJOR!
Please understand that if he is not ready, forcing him to be trained will only cause frustration on the parents part and will cause the whole process to take even longer.
This is the age where "the world revolves around me" (Meaning your son) and if you try to change what he really wants to do, he will rebel.
If he didn't pick out his potty, take him shopping with you and have him pick out his own "BIG BOY PANTS." The more in control he is at this stage, the more easily you and your son will progress. Positive reinforcement helps. Praise him for trying!
Good luck with potty training!
Dr. Betti
Good luck, super_mom
2006-09-30 13:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by super_mom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is seven and just nearly potty-trained. Its been years of hell, but last summer, i decided just to ignore it, no shouting no pleading no nothing. Just calmly and silently dealt with any accidents. After 6 weeks of it not being an issue, i took to it again with a fresh mind, and finally made some progress. Its a huge mistake to assume that all children develop the same, the variable are enormous. I have a friend who alway brags about how her son was potty trained at eighteen months. While i would never say this, he couldnt hold a conversation with my two-year old. Maybe your son is frustrated, as im sure you are! I have four children, and one or the other is almost always going through a "phase", so when its too much, i just take a break from stressing over it. To break the viscious cycle. Its like talking a breath and counting to ten, on a bigger scale, for both of you! His nursery should understand, and Good Luck!
2006-09-30 10:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that your son has a heart condition! I hope he is Ok!, My little boy is 4 too and he has Leggs calves' perthes disease, it is rare and in his Hip bones, He is already potty trained but now will be set back due to treatments he will recieve, All I can say is don't disapline him, use a reward system, You go potty and then say mommy went potty so I get a treat! make a big deal out of it! then when he goes make an even bigger deal, with my daughter, I had to take away diapers and just bought a ton of cheap undmerwear for a while, I would reward her with something small everytime she went and Stand my ground when she had accidents! Not allowing her her treat even if she cried..... I hope this helps, My kids liked Things like stickers, Clay, a sucker, Or to pick out a cereal or juice flavor, or pick their favorite meal for dinner! again good luck and if you ever want to just talk I am here!
2006-10-03 20:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Flagstaff mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never punish a child silly, it will make him fearful, and encourage him to hide things from you, because he's not sure what he's meant to be doing.
You need to get the nursery to work with you on this, they have experience and will monitor him whilst he's there. As for you, you simply take him to the toilet every 30mins without fail, whether he says he wants to go or not...he'll soon start learning that he needs to perform on the toilet, as that's the normal place to go. But you must praise, praise, praise when he does, and totally ignore if he has an accident elsewhere.
2006-10-01 11:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he only recently started nursery? Once he sees the other children using the potty/toilet, he'll want to do the same.
Just persevere, there's not much more you can do. And don't worry - have you ever come accross any un-potty trained adults? We all get there in the end!
2006-09-30 10:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As he is slightly older I would try putting him straight onto the toilet instead of a potty. You can buy him a seat that fits under your toilet seat making the whole smaller and his own little step to climb up. Its a very stressful time for you all so try to make it as fun as possible. Maybe put a fun reward chart in the toilet.
2006-10-01 06:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by gypsyeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Son was a little stubborn at first too. We finally got him a little potty of his own, and a really cute book about going potty, and he started to get into it a little more. They say boys are harder to potty train than girls, I believe it. They have some good movies out about it now too for kids, and also leap frog has a program which you can get pretty cheap on Ebay.
2006-09-30 10:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi my neice has just had a major operation she is 3 years old and she does the same thing and what the specialist said was that it is the only thing in her life that she has any control over, because she had no control over weather she wanted the op or not and as you know with having a young child you cant give them them the freedom to do whatever they want, so they are also controlled by you, but by wetting or messing only they can control that. So its more of a statement and i can gladley say that she is realising it isnt making any difference because when she does wet or mess she just gets ignored unless its in the toilet. Hope this helps Angela
2006-09-30 10:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by ANGELA R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋