The child prances around the neighborhood with hair weave extensions down to her butt. Just a month ago her hair was brown and today I see that it's light blond and blown straight, her fingernails and toes are painted hot pink and she dresses her in tiny shorts with tube tops or really short skirts. Occasionally I see the little girl wearing lip gloss or pink lipstick. She carries a purse and always wears these little cinderalla slippers with a low heel. I don't want to judge the mother or call her a bad parent but my 8 year old niece visits me often after school and I refuse to let my niece play with her. There is a rumor on the block that I think my niece is too good to play with certain kids. I don't blame this child at all but I don't want my niece to think looking this way as a child is okay. She already asked me to buy her some nail polish and a purse since she met this little girl so I immediately told her not to play with her. Am I wrong for feeling this way
2006-09-30 09:27:07 · 17 answers · asked by SmartyPants 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Never said anything was wrong with an 8 year old carrying a purse or wearing nail polish or lip gloss. Certain colors and in moderation. (To Blackgurl)
2006-09-30 10:07:34 · update #1
My niece is 8 years old with long legs and has already started to develop breast (little knobs, but nonetheless) so the last thing I want to do is make her look older. She wears ponytails, cute skirts and sneakers. She looks like a little girl and she will continue to look that way until the time is right and my sister (her mom) agrees.
2006-09-30 10:12:28 · update #2
Dying or coloring a child's hair that young will eventually cause the hair to dry out and split . even baldness , it is stripping the child from her natural oils and will ruin her hair . And dressing her that way and all the rest will only make a sl*t out of her...a purse is fine...her mother is creating a monster ...
2006-09-30 09:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but who are all of you to judge this mother? Just because she doesn't make the same decisions you would doesn't give you the right to bad mouth her. All or you, as well as the asker, has the right to restrict whom you child interacts with. If they want to be friends, then they will see each other at school. You can't shelter you child from everything. Instead of spending time talking about this mother spend some time explaining to your child why this is not acceptable behavior for an 8 y o. No child should be made to grow up faster than they have to.
2006-09-30 17:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lolabel 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
whoa the child is 6! your right,kids always want want other kids have keep ur niece well away..about the rumours,not much u can do,doesn't anyone else think this girl is being made to grow up to quick? also I would be worried for the child out in the neighbourhood alone,paedophiles just love that look,her mum must be dumb.
2006-09-30 20:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. See, I think that this is why there are so many problems with paedophiles...parents (that's SOME parents, by no means do I want to offend anyone here) let their children go around in these costumes that are unsuitable for their age, and think nothing of it...what happened to children being dressed in frilly dresses, and covered in material from their head to their toes????
You stick to your principles- don't compromise for the sake of winning popularity. Chances are that these aren't the type of people you want to associate with anyway!
2006-09-30 16:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sort of it's okay to be wondering about the child and her mother but its natural for little girls to want polish and purses. and as far as the other child is concerned shes gonna grow up messed up shes is either going to grow up to sexy or she is going to place to many values on looks and her hair it's going to fall out your not suppose to put those chemicals on a childs hair it makes the hair fall out. but you shouldnt be so afraid to let her play just explain to her that differnt things happen in differnt families and that what that little girl does is not for her and that your not her mother so you really cant let her do those things...thats how I learned as a child plus she will have her own likes and dislikes she may like the polish but not like the blonde weave
2006-09-30 16:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kaliana D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG. A CHILD SHOULD NOT BE OUT THERE LIKE THAT. FOR ONE, A CHILD NEED TO BE A CHILD FIRST. WHAT DOES SHE HAVE TO LOOK FORWARD TO WHEN SHE GETS OLDER IF HER MOM IS DOING ALL OF THAT NOW. I WOULD NOT WANT MY CHILD OR MY NIECES PLAYING WITH THAT CHILD BECAUSE THAT CHILD IS IMITATING AN ADULT AND THERE ARE ATTACKERS OUT THERE. IS THE CHILD PARENT A FRIEND OF YOURS? SHE NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO HER REGARDING HER CHILD BECAUSE SHE IS GOING TO REGRET LETTING THAT CHILD GO OUT LIKE THAT. SHE IS STILL A BABY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH LIGHTLY POLISHING YOUR LITTLE GIRL'S NAILS AND GETTING HER A LITTLE PURSE BECAUSE THEY HAVE THAT FOR LITTLE GIRLS. BUT WHEN YOU ARE DOING THE ADULT STUFF WITH YOUR CHILD, YOU NEED HELP. YOUR NEIGHBOR NEED SOME ADVICE REGARDING HER CHILD.
2006-09-30 16:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That poor child. I would certainly be tempted to restrict my child's interaction with a child like that. But in a very few years, she will have the option of interacting with all types. I think while she is still young, best to keep to acquaintances that share more of your value systems.
2006-09-30 16:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by finaldx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know Your neighbor is going to let her daughter dress the way she wants her to no matter what anyone else says probably,plus it's their kid. If you don't feel it's right then it's your opinon. I would def. not let my kid wear things of that sort and make her look older but thats my opinion. Let your neice play with her,they are kids and they are going to want to do things everyone else does. You can't help that. But by not letting her play with that lil girl you are telling your neice that she is better than that lil girl.
2006-09-30 22:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lil-Chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl! it's is your choice and I wouldn't let my niece hang with the little fast girl either but, also remember that it is not that little girls fault and her mom is the blame of how this kid will turn out.
2006-09-30 16:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u are not! if your child hangs around with a little girl whos parents spoil her and "dress her up like that " she is gonna turn out to be a snob! and very difficult to handle as she will think shes better than everyone else!
2006-09-30 16:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by lita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋