The other day i was talking to my friend about relationships and stuff, we both have girlfriends and have been through about the ammount of horrible situations and some how in that conversation he thought i implied that i was going to break up with my girlfriend. now he and my girlfriend were on friendly terms with eachother and he told her what he had heard. I never meant to imply anything like that and i really love my girlfriend, now im pissed off at my bestfriend and all my girlfriend's friends are pissed off at me!!! what do i do!!!!!
2006-09-30 09:21:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lay it out for your girlfriend, how it went. Tell her she can believe it or not but you can't do any better than offer her the whole truth. Leave it up to her. As for your friend.....I think he's making a play on your girl. Furthermore, I'd use the term friend a little more tightly since he's got no problem putting his spin on your words and letting them slip in your girlfriend's ear. You should be p.o.'d at your best friend. You should pointedly ignore your girlfriend's friends as they are NOT who you are having a relationship with and it's not their business to make any thought or feeling they have on it your business. Whatever they think of you they can just keep to themselves. They're total sheep for being willing to believe third-hand information that doesn't contain any of the original context or content. Baaa-aaa-aaa.
2006-09-30 09:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. Just sit down with your girlfriend,and your friend, together at the same time. Tell her what you and your friend were talking about that night, and then ask him what you could have possibly said that would make him think that you didn't love your girl and that he had permission to go after his best friends girl. Tell him where he was mistaken ,in front of your girl,and tell your girl, that you still love her ,but you have to know that she believes you and not him, before you'll get back with her, because trust in a relationship is important,and you want her to trust you. If she says she does, then turn to your friend,and say, brother, it's time to call it quits for the time being cause you hurt me bad, taking over my girl like you were just waiting in the wings, and so we need some distance between you and me and you and her , for a time, and see if later on things can be strong again. But you have to earn my trust first , and it might take some time. I wish you well, but later.
2006-09-30 09:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by mainah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is a toughie but I can most likely solve it. First of all, go to your "friend" and confront without your gf around. Talk to him about how you never implied to break up with her and tell him how you feel. It may or may not work out with him 'cause here's what I think. Your friend secretly loves your girlfriend and wants to be with her but, he has one problem, you. So, he waits for the perfect moment to strike, getting a gf so nobody gets suspicious. Then, when you were talking, BAM! The perfect moment hit. That's what I think. Moving on. If it doesn't work out with him, resort to your gf.Before confronting her, get one of her favorite flowers, if she has one. If not, then get what I call a white rose. Go to her, give her the rose, tell her you really love her and explain the situation. If you stay clam and serene, she'll understand. Hope everything works out for ya.
2006-09-30 09:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, tell your girlfriend EXACTLY what happened. Ask her, after telling her about your conversation with your bestfriend, if you gave any implication as to wanting to break up with her.
Secondly, talk to your best friend. Find out why he thought that. Correct his error. Then, have him talk to your girlfriend.
Thirdly, by doing the above two things, this should solve your troubles with your girlfriend's friends.
Good Luck!
2006-09-30 09:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there
Sounds like a mean friend IMHO so I would tell your GF that you do love her and you were talking about past love experiences but how happy are you that you two are together and if she breaks up with you over some lies and goes for your friend then she was not a good person to be with in the 1st place good luck to you
2006-09-30 09:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be calm and clear the matter with your girllf by explaining to her the situation and keep away from that friend , and learn that " walls have ears " so that do not talk too much and learn to balance the speech that might harm you and not say to anyone to the extent it becomes part of your character.. Learn " if talking of silver , silence is of gold".
2006-09-30 09:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to them together. That way you can answer any questions raised by the friend the gf may have and she can see you refute what your friend has said.
2006-09-30 09:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go up to her and tell her what happend and talk to your friend about it
2006-09-30 09:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by emily . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋