4 the past 20yrs i have been the only girl in my dad's life, now he has met his new partner, who by the way i love and so looking forward 2 calling her mum when they marry soon. so why do i feel left out. i ring my dad 2 talk and he seems 2 just want 2 get me off the phone 2 ring her. she live's in a different part of the county as do i so i understand. however we were so close and now i feel like i have lost him. they talk ever day.i get 30 seconds ever friday. whats wrong with we why do i feel like this. plse help with good advice. to stop me feeling like i have lost him.
2006-09-30 09:20:22 · 12 answers · asked by hatfieldnomi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When some people fall in love they forget for awhile everything and everyone around them. I don't think your father means to leave you out and I don't think you have lost him although I can understand why you would feel that way.Remind him once in awhile that you still love and need him too.
Give him a little time to settle down again and I'm sure he'll be his old self again.
Meanwhile, because you live away from him, send him little "thinking of you" cards and write your own little notes so he has something of yours.
Best of luck and don't give up hope.
2006-09-30 09:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by tea cup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give your Dad time. He is in love and not able to be with her all the time right now and I am sure it is killing him. You are still the #1 Girl in his life it is just right now he has her on his mind. As soon as they get married and are living together I am sure he will spend more time on the phone with you again. You have not lost your Dad. You are feeling the same way your Dad has felt plenty of times while you were growing up. It is normal.
2006-09-30 10:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on honey it's your dad your talking about.
1.he has got the best daughter in the world,and he does love and care for you and i can see he has never let you down,
2.he does deserve a chance in life to find some happyness of his own he has got to put his feeling's also in the picture.
3.he will be feeling the same way about you go and get yourself a nice guy,don't just be a daddy's girl.you got to find someone to love you and take his place to care for you.
4.he is not blanking you he will never blank you honey.stop thinking he is not caing about you.
5.your dad will never let no one take your place as his girl your his daughter and not his lover,grow up honey and get life of your own.
6.i hope you will grow to see your dad happy too.stop being a grown up kid.
did you ever stop and think what your dad is feeling all the time your away from him,he's worried about you are you safe are you,taking care of yourself.
when you meet your man then your dad will be so nose you will want advise on how to keep him to stay out of your life then what your gonna do honey i hope you will come back and tell me i'm right here.
find a boyfriend and someone who will be able to make your dad want to know whats going on with you all the time.wait till he finds out he's gonna be gran dad then you can have a laugh of your life.
come on honey give your dad a chance.
2006-09-30 09:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a serious question so deserves a serious answer. But seriously, i think the answer is to ride it out. This is a phase in your dad's life. He has to go through it, you need to give him space to go through it.
Think back to when you were 14 or so - you had your own stuff and he had to give you space. The exact same thing is going on here, only backwards.
You will always be the no.1 in your dad's life. If anything, you need to feel sorry for her, in the future, cos she will have to cope with that once this purple haze period is over.
I'm a dad. Not even if I was kidnapped by rainbow coloured beings from jupiter would anything be more important to me than my daughter. That doesn't mean I don't shout at her to stop blethering and go brush her teeth. She's younger than you, BTW...
2006-09-30 09:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by wild_eep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel , i`m sure he doesn`t realise you feel like this . He is on a high , he`s in love , let him enjoy it and lets hope it lasts for him . You are so lucky , you haven`t lost your dad and i am certain he loves you dearly . I have lost my dad , the day he passed away and i miss him so much it hurts . You still have yours just be happy for him and at least you can speak to yours anytime you want .
2006-09-30 10:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad has devoted the last 20 years to you. its time that he lead his own life now as should you. Still take time out for each other yes but dont forget you'll have your own family around you soon and will probably have put your poor dad on the back burner anyway.
2006-09-30 09:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't lost him, it's just that he's caught up in the thrall of what he perceives as love, he'll come down to earth soon. There's nothing more sobering than have a voice on the phone coming to live with you.
Keep loving him and be patient, he'll be there for you.
2006-09-30 09:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by tucksie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a young adult now, and are grown up. Think about your dad now, do you have a boyfriend ? He still loves you, but you must let him have some freedom. What about your life, don't you have friends, boys, girls to go out with. He needs to get his own life back, and you are old enough to look after yourself.
2006-09-30 09:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad will never stop loving you whatever else is going on in your or his life.Good for him in finding happiness,at least when you are ready to settle down you won't have to worry or feel guilty about leaving him.
2006-09-30 11:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is having a new beggining in his love life. You are already in his life. Give him a chance with his woman and understand him. You may never know he may be needing you more than you think
2006-09-30 10:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kiran urf msa sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋