I was at a restaurant with my boyfriend and i ordered something that he thought was too expensive and he kicked me under the table and i was like ok i'll order something else
2006-09-30 09:17:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need a richer boyfriend.
2006-09-30 09:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are two issues in question here. The first deals with him kicking you. That is inexcusable for any reason. You may tell him so, with my compliments.
The second issue deals with the cost of food items in a restaurant.
There is an etiquette, or a protocol involved in going out to dine with someone. When he's picking up the tab, the routine should go something like this.
You enter the restaurant, you are seated, you pick up your menus and you start to read.
Your boy friend looks up and says, "The salmon steak looks good".
That's YOUR cue to look at the right hand numbers and find out how much the salmon steak costs. What he's really telling you, is this sounds nice and it's something I can afford.
If you want the salmon steak, you say, "Yes, that does look good." If you don't you look for something that is close to that price, or lower, and say, "It does, but I think I'll have the deep fried clams."
That way he's told you how much he can afford, and given you some guidelines.
Please share this information with him, as it is much more helpful to keeping a relationship growing, than kicking people under the table.
2006-09-30 11:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this was rude. If money was an issue but he still wanted to treat, he should have gently nudged you in a different menu choice before the waiter arrived. You want the filet mignon? But this will be our last chance for the season for pasta primavera! The fact that he was willing to do such a thing to save face to a waiter really speaks volumes about his character. There is an exception, of course. If you were previously aware of his budget constraints and ordered extravagantly, this would have been extremely discourteous.
2006-09-30 12:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mariela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it rude of you or your boyfriend? I would say it was mean of your boyfriend rather than rude. When I take friends out for dinner the last thing I think of is the price, its the fact I am enjoying the company of the people I want to be with, sharing a meal at whatever cost comes second...
2006-09-30 09:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by kenpitcher 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's rude. If he took you there on a date, anything on the menu is fare game. If he had a problem with $ he should have told you BEFORE hand, and never kicked you. At that point he should have just dealt with what you ordered and paid the bill! Never kick! Seesh, find a more gentleman-like man to date!
2006-09-30 09:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by natureutt78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was rude to kick you.
I assume he was paying? Maybe he was thinking that he couldn't afford what you wanted and how else was he going to get your attention? Ask him...if that was the case then forgive him and come up with a better way to communicate...
If that was not the case...he was just being a jerk...then maybe you need a new boyfriend?
2006-09-30 09:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't rude. It was cheap, crass, obnoxious, mean and embarrassing! If he didn't have much money, he should have said that earlier and asked that you go easy on the tab. But to kick someone under the table is horrible and inexcusable! Girl, there is not much worse than a cheap man. (Note: I didn't say a poor man, I said "cheap".)
2006-09-30 09:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Apple21 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that was rude. Do you know it was too expensive? Did he tell you? From what you said, it wasn't clear. I mean maybe he didn't want you to order the salad with onions and garlic so he could kiss you later!!
Nonetheless I think that was rude of him and he should communicate with you verbally!
2006-09-30 09:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Kinda rude.
If it was a really hard kick, that made you hurt. Girl ! Stay Away From Him.
You should talk to him about it, I mean tell him that what bothered you was that he didn't tell you he was on low cash, and he kicked you. Tell him he should have had told you.
2006-09-30 09:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how well you know him. If you know him very well, it might have been rude of you to order something you know is not within his budget.
2006-09-30 09:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by lothecat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bit. If he was having a cash flow problem he should have talked to you about it before. or maybe cooked dinner at home instead.
2006-10-04 06:56:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋