So last year i liked this guy but he was in a serious relationship with this one girl. So now this year, we are the best of friends but now he is with this other girl. But the thing is, i still like him! so i told him that i used to like him & that i like him again. so he told me that he liked me last year too. & now he likes me again as well. well last friday we went to see a movie together. a few days after that he admitted to wanting to cuddle with me. so i told him that i'd think it would be best not to do anything. so yesterday, me & him were supossed to go see a movie with a whole bunch of my sisters friends (none of them know him) and i called him and he said he couldnt go cuz he would feel guilty. so i asked him why & he told me that he would want to show his affection towards me & all that. then he added that if anything were to happen between us he would want it done right. that someone as beautiful & nice as me deserves someone who is not sneaking around. what should i do?
2006-09-30 09:11:53 · 14 answers · asked by GEEKiNTHAPiNK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he seems like a really sweet person. he believes that he's not good enough for you, and you really mean so much to him that he would do nothing to potentially hurt anyone. just remember its not only you that he's trying not to hurt, he doesn't want to leave the girl he's with. because you and him dont have a good enough relationship yet. he has very good moral standard for not wanting to do anything that would make him guilty... but also he doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend or put you into a bad position as a whore.
here's what i recommend you do: keep building up a friendly relationship with him. flirt all you want, but keep anything serious at a minimum. don't get too physically close to him unless he makes a move first, and keep suggesting to go out and do things with him. Build up your relationship with him, and maybe he'll come to love you just as much as (or more than) he loves the girl he doesn't want to leave right now. And keep in mind that if he and his girl ever have a fight, you'll be the first person he'll turn to for comfort and love. Don't give up on him, and good luck!
2006-09-30 09:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by DSpite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.
He's the one in a relationship. This why you both are CORRECTLY not doing anything together. If his relationship ends naturally, then you two can see each other. Otherwise he can't leave her for you......how would you feel if he did that and then he was with you. If he left her for you, he could just as easily leave you for someone else. I don't think you'd want that.
So.....you have to remain at a distance. Sorry....I have been in this spot. It's not easy to deal with. The forbidden fruit.
2006-09-30 16:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he was waiting for you to give the green light to PDA's in the midst of your friends. It is awkward for a guy (and the girl I imagine) to pursue a girl who has been or is in a les/bi relationship b/c we assume it is tough to come out and we don't want to make you feel like you have to choose to "go back in" esp when friends are around. I speak first hand and can tell you that when it's just the two of us together, it's total bf/gf, but around her friends it's friendly flirting at best. I hate it and hope you are better adapted to the situation. I would also add he doesn't seem to appreciate his current gf too much. Just make sure he keeps his word.
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2006-09-30 16:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by d d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy has all of the power here- he's got two girls who really like him, and it sounds like he's playing you both. If he seriously wanted to be with you, he would leave this other girl and be with you instead of stringing you along. I think you're better off pursuing someone else that is willing and capable of returning your affections instead of playing games.
2006-09-30 16:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by doppelpopolous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, this guy is using a 'sad tale' that men have used for centuries when they want to go further than a peck on your cheek. You shouldn't be pressured into anything just to 'keep' the guy. If he really cares for you, and not just to 'score' he will quit this nonsense and enjoy your company.
2006-09-30 16:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great guy. Don't pressure him, but respect his decision. You would want him to act as nobly if you were in his current girlfriend's position.
However, at this point, I fail to see why he is not simply breaking it off with the other girl. For her sake, it sounds like he needs to...
2006-09-30 16:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by Shaken Not Stirred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bottom line, he has told you himself that he is not good enough for you because he is a cheater. at least he is honest. be thankful for that.
if he wanted to be with you he would break up with the others. but even if you did this, could you trust him not to eventually cheat on you?
2006-09-30 16:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by new yorkr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl you are sooo lucky to have a guy like that liking you...u should go with what ur heart tels ya. ino that's not what u wanted to hear, but thats what chya need to do
good luck
2006-09-30 16:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by brummondgirls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect his wishes. he is trying to do the right thing not only by you but the girl he is dating. it is obvious that he has some feeling for you so let him figure out what he wants to do.
2006-09-30 16:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by OB the Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋