I have been with my bf for about 5 years now, every single argument we have had supposedly it has been my fault and if not he makes it into it. He is a good father to his son, he has a great career, makes good money, and is a good man in general but when it comes to me he can care less. He's called me worthless, b***h, idiot, and so on. I take care of him, I cook, clean, wash, iron and everything else in between but somehow in his mind I am a worthless woman in his eyes. I have a great career and he puts my work down. We don't have any children together but I'm worried about what if I leave him and there is noone like him out there, as far as the career, being a great dad, family man, making good money and so on. I want to be happy but am I just whining and being selfesh or am I being reasonable? Please help me!!!
2006-09-30 08:56:20 · 14 answers · asked by ejinelle99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen up...if he is calling you names during a heated argument, where both of you are name calling, then that is one thing! If he calls you worthless, an idiot, the b word and other disrespectful names in daily conversation then you need to tell him "hit the road Jack and don't come back no more". I don't care how wonderful he is to the rest of the world. He needs to treat you like the domestic goddess you truly are to him.
I know that often in my marriage my husband has not truly appreciated me but the same can be said for me not fully appreciating him either. From what you posted you are doing everything to make his home a palace and yet he is treating you like you're the hired help.
There are plenty of wonderful men out there who will honor and respect you. I certainly would not stay with a man just because I thought I couldn't find another one as good. Trust me...this guy is no prize.
2006-09-30 09:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u need to be happy an ur not gonna be happy wit a guy like that trust me once u leave him if u chosse to u will be alot less stressed come on would u rather be unhappy an feel like s hi t all the time wit a dumb man who treats u like s hi t or be happy an feel good about ur self alone for a lil while till the right guy comes along... hunny r u scared of being alone or jus worried about what he is gonna call u if u leave him? guys dont change if he has been like this for 5 yrs.. ur better of alone get a dog he wil be nicer to u than this guy ok he is a good day alot of guys r good dads jus be thankful u dont have a kid with him hunny u can do way better u sound sweet good luck....
2006-09-30 09:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by my heart belongs to a sailor! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to leave him now. I guarantee you there are great single men out there who would treat you better than you are being treated now. You are a woman...and deserved to be treated with great dignity and respect. Any man who would treat you like you are being treated now.....does not truely love you. You deserve to be loved and you deserve to have a self asteem. Believe me when I tell you that your self asteem will only dwindle down to nothing if you don't do something about this. The sooner the better. He is telling you that you are worthless because he doesn't want you to have any self asteem and so you won't leave. He seems to want you under his thumb. Trust me.....that sucks to be that dependant on a man. You need to depend on yourself. There are great men out there who will treat you better I know it as a fact. I hope I helped a little.
2006-09-30 09:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and be glad you did. Nobody should calll you names or make you feel worthless. This guy sounds like my ex...which is why he is my ex. I am much happier without him even though I don't have a relationship with anyone else. When he says I can get back with him since I don't have anyone I tell him I would rather be alone than in another relationship like that again.
Let's hope there isn't anyone else out there who treats you like he does. You deserve much better than that.
And please get out BEFORE you have any children with him. I didn't and I still have to deal with him on occasion and he still uses these opportunities to get his little digs and put downs in. Get out while the going is good!
2006-09-30 09:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to leave him, make sure you find somebody who is definitely not like him or you're back to the same hell that you are trying to leave behind. A relationship is only worth keeping if it brings out the best in you as a person at the same time you bring out the best in your partner. The way it is, as he keeps on calling you names and treating you like trash, you will both come to that point that you will be bringing the worst from each other and I believe this is not worth wasting your time on. He is selfish and don't even hope that he will change. Leave and move on. Good luck.
2006-09-30 09:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God put someone here for everybody,nobody is worth being called names i don't care how good his job is if he is always putting you down it's not worth it tell him to hit the road there are other men who would cherish a woman like you,you hold yourself in low esteem.if you are truly doing all that you say you are doing then he is luck y to have you.today woman as a rule don't or won't do all the thing you claim to do slavery is over with today woman work as hard as a man for less money doing the same same job
2006-09-30 09:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURPRIZE!!!!There are a lot better men out there,that care for u to not only for his child and career,there are guys that can show love,and can make you happy.I know , 5 years spent together is a lot,but you can get over it,and find a men exactly as you wish...don`t waste your time anymore,go out there and find the one that make you feel like a queen not like a looser.
2006-09-30 09:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by donatella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-30 09:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being reasonable. I wouldn't want to be with someone who makes me feel worthless. And you shouldn't either. In the long run you are only hurting yourself more by staying and being belittled by him. Sound like to me, in his eyes, you can't do anything right. Why do that to yourself? You can and probably will be much happier without him!
2006-09-30 09:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run honey, RUN... Fast and hard. Just got out of this relationship and now I see that I always took the blame. Looking back, it wasn't at all. I know from experience it's not what you want to hear, but it's good advice....
2006-09-30 09:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋